by Lindsay | Feb 21, 2024 | Home + Life
As I may have mentioned before, at least a time or two (haha) last year was the most difficult year of my life thus far. During some of my darkest times, someone close to me told me the best thing I could do is take care of myself. If I couldn’t do anything else but get out of bed that day, then just focus on taking care of my mental, spiritual, and physical health as best as I could that day. In that regard, I spent a lot of time trying to make improvements in my life and heal myself in all areas. I had neglected myself and been unhappy for so long, that last year I finally decided it was time to make myself and my well-being a priority.
Having said all of that, I made a lot of purchases (inexpensive ones) that helped me on my journey to better all areas of my life. Although self care looks different for everyone, I thought I’d share with you some of my favorite products that I purchased last year. Some of these items were actually gifted to me by close friends or family, but most are things that I purchased after some research and/or recommendations from others.. Nonetheless, these are the things that helped me get through the last year and things that I would recommend to anyone to make improvements, not just someone going through a hard time.
1. Bidet
This might sound crazy, but hear me out! Investing in a bidet was a game-changer for my personal hygiene and comfort. This simple addition to my bathroom routine made a world of difference. Not only does it leave you feeling incredibly fresh and clean, but it’s also more eco-friendly than traditional toilet paper. It’s a small luxury that has brought a bit of spa-like indulgence into my everyday life. Super inexpensive and very easy to install. I did it all by myself without any tools!
2. Toilet Stool
This might seem like a strange purchase, but a toilet stool has surprisingly improved my digestive health. By elevating my feet, it has helped with a more natural position for easier “movements”. Recommended by my pelvic floor therapist, it’s a small change that has made a significant difference in my overall comfort and well-being.
3. Water Flosser
Flossing has never been the favorite part of my day, but the water flosser made it so much easier and even enjoyable. It’s more effective than traditional floss, reaching places that are hard to get to. My gums have never felt healthier and it’s now a non-negotiable part of my daily routine, especially now that I have Invisalign and am flossing and brushing like 5 times a day!
4. Cat Litter Box Cabinet
As a cat momma to THREE feline friends, keeping the litter box situation under control is crucial which helps me to reducce stress and improve my overall well-being and mood. Plus, I have large dogs that like to find the little “treats” my cats leave behind for them in the “sandbox”. Try convincing my dogs those aren’t for them! This litter box cabinet not only conceals the unsightly box, but also helps contain the mess and odor, as well as keeps it hidden from my nosy canine investigators. It blends seamlessly with my home decor and my feline furballs love their private commode too!
5. Astronaut Galaxy Projector
This lamp was actually a gift, but quickly became one of my favorite items and is a very affordable Amazon find. This little gadget transforms any room into a starry haven with its mesmerizing galaxy and star projections. Not only does it create a serene and magical atmosphere, but it also doubles as an adorable decor piece with its cute astronaut design. It’s perfect for setting a calming mood before bed and I seriously use it every single night now. The soft, colorful lights help me unwind and add a touch of wonder to my evenings, making it a delightful and soothing escape from the stresses of the day.
6. UV Gel Polish Kit
One of my self-care rituals is doing my nails which makes me feel put together and pampered. The UV gel polish kit has been a fantastic addition and allows me to achieve salon-quality nails at home, saving time and money. The gel polish lasts longer than regular nail polish and I love experimenting with different colors and designs. The kit I found on Amazon came with 30 different polish colors, the UV light to cure the polish, and a bunch of accessories like nail files, toe separators, and cuticle oil.
7. Charcuterie Board
Entertaining at home became a joy with the beautiful wooden charcuterie board I found stumbled across. Although it’s not technically for self car, it’s perfect for hosting friends or just treating myself to a fancy snack, both of which help my overall well-being. The board has sections for different cheeses, meats, fruits, and nuts, making it easy to create an Instagram- or Pinterest-worthy spread. It also came with little matching spoons, forks, knives, and dipping bowls to complete the presentation. Plus, it’s a lovely centerpiece for any gathering.
8. Cloud Sandal Slides
Comfort is key to feeling good and the cloud sandal slides I found have been my go-to footwear at home. They’re incredibly soft, easy to slip on and off, easy to clean when my dogs step on me with muddy paws, can be worn outside, and provide excellent support, making them perfect for lounging around the house or running quick errands. They’ve been a small, but significant addition to my comfort routine.
These are just a few of the items that made a big impact on my self-care journey last year. Each of these products brought a little bit of joy, comfort, and convenience into my life, helping me focus on healing and improving myself. If you’re looking for ways to enhance your well-being, I highly recommend giving these a try. Remember, taking care of yourself is the first step to overcoming any challenge.
With love, support, and happy shopping vibes,
-LS
by Lindsay | Feb 14, 2024 | Love + Relationships
Howdy fellow romantics,
Even though we live in a world that seems to spin faster each and every day, where trends come and go as often as many of us change our underpants, the desire to have a traditional, long-lasting relationship remains a timeless aspiration for many of us. And by “us”, I absolutely do mean me included. While modern romance may emphasize and glamorize instant “microwave” gratification and casual romantic connections, there’s still something so fulfilling about the idea of a love that endures through all seasons of our lives. I often think about high school sweethearts that have been together from teenage years all the way until the end of their lives. To me, there’s nothing more beautiful than this type of unending connection.
Through all the research I’ve done since my recent divorce while trying to figure out how we failed so miserably and with the tons of self reflection I’ve done since that relationship ended, I finally feel that I have a decent grasp on what it takes to sustain a healthy and enduring marriage. And as a woman who truly cherishes the beauty of tradition and unwavering commitment, these are things I will absolutely be intentionally implementing moving forward. Today I’m here to share these insights with you as well on how to nurture a lasting love and have a traditional relationship that stands the test of time.
1. Willingness
This may seem like a no-brainer, but especially in my recent personal experience, the number one factor for a fulfilling and sustainable relationship is the willingness of both parties. Even during rough patches, if both people show up and are 100% committed to try to resolve any issue that comes along, they’re already ahead of the curve and on the road toward the success of the relationship. That’s not to say it will be an easy ride, but on the flip side, if one person isn’t willing, that’s basically a guarantee that the whole thing is doomed to fall apart.
2. Mutual Respect
The cornerstone of any lasting relationship is mutual respect. Although relationships are for sure about togetherness, it’s also vital to honor each other’s individuality, opinions, goals, and aspirations. Listen attentively, empathize sincerely, and communicate openly. These gestures demonstrate respect that will lay the foundation for trust, which is absolutely necessary for the longevity of your bond. Be sure to respect each other even during disagreements and celebrate your uniqueness, rather than looking at them as pain points that you’d like to change. When you truly respect someone for exactly who they are and accept all their flaws, you can build a relationship that’s meant to last and sets the tone for reciprocation.
3. Communication
Effective communication is the lifeline of every relationship. Be willing to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs openly, be transparent about EVERYTHING always, and encourage your partner to do the same. Communication isn’t just about talking, though. It’s also about actively listening and trying to truly understand each other’s perspectives to work together toward a common ground. Surface level conversations just won’t cut it either. You really need to talk and listen to each other on a deep level and know each others’ hearts inside and out. And pro tip: it’s absolutely essential to do this before marriage and getting too serious. You don’t want to skip out on the tough and uncomfortable conversations early, only to find out there are deal breakers once you’ve already married, moved in together, or started having children. Start the convos sooner rather than later so you know ahead of time that you’re on the same page or have plenty of time to get on the same page before difficult situations come up.
4. Prioritize Quality Time
In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Make a conscious effort to prioritize quality time with your partner. Whether it’s a romantic dinner, a leisurely stroll, or simply cuddling on the couch, cherish these moments together and make time for them no matter what else is going on in your life. Invest in building shared experiences that strengthen your bond. Everyone’s needs and desires regarding frequency will vary, especially in the beginning or in less than ideal situations like long-distance relationships, but as long as the priority is made and the quality is there, quantity doesn’t necessarily have to be a hardship.
5. Make Traditions
While modernity has its charms, there’s a timeless elegance in embracing tradition. Whether it’s celebrating anniversaries, observing holidays, or upholding family values, tradition can provide a sense of continuity and stability in your relationship. Find special little rituals that resonate with both of you and weave them into the fabric of your life together. Make as many memories as you can together and with children or other loved ones that can be passed down through the generations. This will not only deepen your connection as a couple, but also as a family unit.
6. Forgiveness
Forgiveness plays a crucial role in fostering long-lasting relationships. Inevitably, conflicts and misunderstandings arise in any partnership, but it’s how we navigate these difficult moments that truly define the strength of our bond. Forgiveness allows us to let go of resentment and grudges, paving the way for healing and reconciliation. It’s about choosing to release the grip of anger and hurt, and instead extend empathy and understanding towards our partner. By demonstrating forgiveness, we create space for growth, compassion, and renewed connection within our relationship, ensuring that love prevails even in the face of adversity.
7. Practice Patience
No relationship is without its challenges. It’s essential to be patient and understanding with your spouse as you navigate the ups and downs. Be willing to look past mistakes, learn from them, and grow together. It’s not about avoiding conflicts altogether, but about resolving them with grace, dignity, integrity, and understanding for one another. Remember that you’re on the same team and working toward the same goals, so it’s likely that your partner’s mistake isn’t intentional or meant to hurt you. Being patient with them as they work through their mistakes so they can fully recognize, acknowledge, and accept what they did to upset you will hopefully help them feel safe and not judged during their low point. They’re simply a human (as are you!), so then be sure to forgive them often and fully, and move on. Patience allows us to weather storms with grace, knowing that growth and transformation require perseverance and resilience. It’s about giving our partner the time and space they need to flourish, while also being understanding and having empathy in moments of frustration or tension, or when they might be struggling and need you the most. By practicing patience and self control during challenging times, we cultivate a sense of harmony and balance within our relationship, fostering a love that endures the test of time.
8. Support Each Other’s Growth
Encourage each other to pursue personal growth and fulfillment. Celebrate each other’s achievements and be a source of strength in times of difficulty. A healthy relationship is one where both partners feel empowered to pursue their own separate dreams, while also knowing they have unending support and love at home. Our jobs as spouses are to be our partners number one cheerleader and support system, even when dreams don’t go quite as planned or take longer than expected. Always let know your partner know you’re there for them and they can rely on you as they grow into each stage of their life.
9. Nurture Intimacy
Intimacy goes beyond physical attraction and the physical act of making love. It’s also about emotional closeness and connection. Take the time to nurture intimacy through meaningful conversations, acts of kindness, and affectionate gestures. Keep the spark alive by continually exploring and deepening your bond. Kiss, hug, and hold hands. Talk openly and listen to each other. Be intentional with time spent together and really invest in opportunities to grow your bond. Whatever makes the two of you feel physically and mentally connected will help build intimacy and open the door to really feeling loved, cared for, valued, wanted, and supported by your partner.
10. Compromise, Compromise, Compromise
In every partnership, there’s bound to be differences. Nobody is the same, especially when you consider that opposites supposedly attract. So always remember that compromise is key. Be willing to meet halfway and find solutions that honor both of your needs and desires. Recognize that you’re a team and your strength lies in your ability to navigate life’s challenges together. Sometimes when you can’t come to a 50/50 agreement on a particular situation, learn to pick your battles. Let your partner have their desired outcome this time if it’s not something truly essential for you and ask them to do the same for you in the future. As long as both of you are putting in equal effort, equal sacrifice, and are equally as happy with the outcome of your life together overall, you’re on the right track.
11. Never Stop Dating Each Other
Just because you’ve been together for years doesn’t mean the romance should fade. Keep the flame alive by continuing to date each other. Surprise each other with thoughtful gestures, plan spontaneous adventures, and never underestimate the power of a simple heartfelt love letter. Even stay-at-home dates where you have dinner and a movie in pajamas on the comfort of your own couch can be plenty, especially in the young children stage of life. The most important thing is that you’re carving out special time for just the two of you without phones, kids, or other distractions and doing something together that you and your sweetie enjoy.
12. Celebrate Your Love Every Day
Remember to celebrate love every day, not just on special occasions. Express your love, gratitude, and admiration for your partner regularly. Create an atmosphere of warmth, desire, and appreciation that permeates every aspect of your relationship. Be kind to one another and always take time out of every day to make your spouse feel wanted, cared for, and special. Wake up every single morning and choose them in the good, bad, and the ugly and be sure to end every single evening with an “I love you” and never in anger.
13. Be Best Friends
Being best friends with your partner is a cornerstone of creating and sustaining a long term relationship. Life is about sharing laughter, adventures, and inside jokes. It’s about having the kind of bond and special closeness that only the two of you can understand. When we prioritize having fun together, we infuse our relationship with joy and spontaneity, keeping the spark alive even amidst life’s challenging seasons. Whether it’s exploring new hobbies, taking trips and adventures, or simply enjoying each other’s company on a relaxing Sunday afternoon, having fun together strengthens our connection and reminds us why we fell in love in the first place. It’s through these shared moments of laughter and playfulness that we deepen our friendship and create memories that last a lifetime.
14. Love Unconditionally
Loving someone wholeheartedly and without conditions may be a pretty difficult thing to do. After all, it’s the perfect kind of love, the way that God loves us. So achieving unconditional love might be extremely difficult and we may even make some mistakes along the way, but it’s paramount we try and it can truly be the difference between a relationship that lasts and one that doesn’t. Once you’ve decided on your partner and that they’re the right one for you, and you’ve fallen deeply in love with them, being all in unconditionally can form an unshakable bond. Make the choice to love them and fully commit to loving them no matter what they do, what goes on around the two of you, and through every situation that comes up throughout your time together. Don’t think about how you might be able to love them more if they did more of “this” or less or “that”. Take them exactly as they are, let them know they’re safe with you, can be completely themselves with you, and choose to love them unendingly with all their unique quirks and flaws. When there are rough days or months, always try to remember the reasons you first fell in love with them and that any struggle is only temporary. Your “ride or die” will always be by your side no matter what comes along and be sure your partner can count on you to be there for them the same way as well. Remember that the grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, but if you don’t water it over there, it won’t grow either. So in my opinion, it’s so much better to stick with the lawn that you’ve got, plant some pretty flowers, grow a garden, and watch the beautiful harvest that will unfold for a lifetime.
Building a traditional, long-lasting relationship requires dedication, commitment, and a willingness to journey together through life’s joys and challenges. By prioritizing mutual respect, effective communication, and a shared commitment for growth, you can create a love that withstands the test of time. In hindsight, although I made many mistakes as a wife and know that I’m likely to make many more mistakes in the future, it’s only now that I’m able to see that despite my mistakes it never would have worked out in the end. I simply didn’t have a partner that shared the same core values as I do and many of the things that I’ve shared here were completely non-existent. I really do believe these factors are the foundations to a long-term relationship and know that it’s possible for me in the future with the right person, just as I believe it can happen for you too. So here’s to embracing the beauty of tradition and nurturing a love that lasts a lifetime. I wish a lifetime of happiness to you and your (present or future) sweetheart as well.
With love and commitment,
-LS
by Lindsay | Feb 6, 2024 | Love + Relationships
Hey, friends.
After a marriage lasting only 615 days, my divorce is final today. At 8:36am, on my way to start the first day of jury duty, the same judge whose court I’m serving in signed our decree and I’m no longer a “Mrs”. It’s hard to believe it’s over.
I think the most difficult thing for me about divorce is that the person who I’d known so well, who knows me so well, and who I’ve spent every day for over 10 years with is now once again a stranger and will no longer be a part of my life. Our families will go back to being separate families and all we have now are memories. It’s a surreal feeling and one that I never thought I’d have to experience. And it sucks knowing this wasn’t my choice. This entire situation wasn’t within my control and that’s been hard to accept. That’s not to say that I think I was a perfect wife and didn’t contribute anything to the breakdown of our relationship, but I don’t think my choice ever would have been to end it. To me, that’s the opposite of what marriage means. I felt like if we had made it this far (over a decade together), we could get through anything and that’s the way it was meant to be. But my husband didn’t agree, so here we are and I’m forced to deal with it and move forward.
Honestly, in hindsight, after grieving over the last year at the loss of what I thought I’d have forever and losing my other half, I guess I’ve realized that this probably is for the best. I know I’ll be okay and think I’m finally on the road to becoming happy. What took me a long while to realize was that my husband and I were actually not happy for a long time, even before we officially got married, so I know in the long run we’ll be better off separate. It just took a while to come to terms with it. It’s hard to feel like the security of having my permanent partner and having to start all over again alone from the beginning is just going to take some time to process. I felt like after a decade of waiting for marriage to happen and then for my husband to tell me he wanted to end it because “it just wasn’t working” for him after only having been married for 8 months was just too hard to bear. But over the year that it took to file for and finalize the divorce, I was able to process and think I’m finally in a good place now.
Growing up, all I ever remember wanting to be is a wife and mother. My grandparents were married 62 years when my grandma passed away. They did everything together and were truly each others’ other (and better) half. Anyone who knows me now knows that 50 years is what I’m hoping for. I would love nothing more than to be blessed with 50 years of marriage with the love of my life. However, with now being nearly 40 and having already been through two major heartaches (my daughter’s dad and my ex-husband), I’d have to be married to someone practically tomorrow and live to be almost 90 years old for that to happen. So I feel like realistically my window on 50 years is quickly waning. But what I also have to remember is that God’s plan is better than mine. Being married for 50 years may not be what’s right for me, despite it being what I think I want.
All along I know that God was preparing me for exactly the place I’m in now. He knows every step, challenge, and success before I ever live it. So he knew this divorce was coming even before I was born. At least that’s what I believe.
During the early stages of my separation with my now ex-husband, it was my first time reading the entire Bible completely through in chronological order. I had read that God hates divorce. So when my husband told me last February, almost exactly a year ago to the day, that he was ending our marriage and wanted a divorce, I refused to accept it. I didn’t want to displease God in that way. I felt so strongly that I had made a commitment, a lifelong commitment, to our marriage and I was determined to fix anything that was wrong and see it through. I couldn’t let God down and I couldn’t live with the shame of being a failure, especially only 8 months after finally getting married.
It wasn’t until talking to a friend and sharing that I wasn’t ready to accept divorce because God hated it that I was given a new perspective. My friend is also a believer and someone who had been through divorce personally as well. They assured me that yes, God does hate divorce, but that I was probably not looking at it in the right context. God didn’t hate divorce because of the actual act of ending a marriage, which I had a hard time believing since marriages are supposed to be sacred. He certainly didn’t want me to stay in a marriage that (as I soon found out) was an adulterous one and what God likely meant when the Bible says He hates divorce, as my friend explained to me, was that he hated what it did to me and to any families who had to experience it. He hates seeing his children in pain and families being ripped apart by the end of a marriage. He wasn’t going to be angry with me because I was heading toward a divorce. He knew the pain I was in and He already saw everything I had done to try to save the marriage and put it back together. He saw what my husband had been doing behind my back. He knows even more things than just what I had eventually found out and even more than I will probably ever know. He doesn’t want me to have to suffer through the agony of my husband abandoning me and leaving for another woman, as well as for selfishness and greed. God hates my divorce because of how devastating it was for me, our children, and both of our families.
I’m so glad I had this friend to put this into perspective for me. It helped me to see that divorce, although I wish it could have been avoided, wasn’t something I should be ashamed of. It took me months of crying and struggling just to get out of bed every day to come to terms with the fact that it was happening, but I finally felt at peace because I no longer felt the shame that I was letting God down. And that’s not to say I wasn’t still extremely sad at the situation, because I was absolutely devastated that what I thought would be “forever” was already over, but at least I could move forward knowing I gave it all I had and that God wasn’t going to be angry at me. And since my husband moved out of state and refused to file because of how it would make him look at his job, this is when I finally found it within me to file for the divorce.
So here we are, almost exactly one year later from the worst day of my life, and I’m okay. This definitely isn’t anywhere I thought I’d be, but I know that this is all part of God’s plan and that in the end it will be what’s best for me. And for my ex-husband too. Wow, it actually feels weird to say “ex”. For so long even before he was officially my husband I always thought of him that way. So now for him to be my official “ex” and just a memory is something I think will take a little getting used to. But at least now it’s official.
And just to be clear, I think I’m healed (or at least mostly healed) from the heart ache. It’s not that I want the relationship back or that I’m still grieving that man. Although I think I’ll always have some love in my heart for him and what we once shared for an entire ⅓ of my life, the life and memories we made and the families we created together, I’m no longer in love with him. I don’t miss our relationship anymore and I’m finally feeling ready to move on to whatever is coming next. The thing is that everything I wanted was taken away from me without my consent and without even a warning. He was my friend, my person, my other half, and the one waiting for me every night when I got home. I don’t think I miss him per se, but I miss all that he was to me and what we had together. I miss the comfort and security. And I hate that he forced me to be alone without my friend, confidant, and the leader of our home. I’m angry that he had the choice to leave everything behind and start fresh while I’m stuck in the home we shared together with everything he left behind (and I do mean everything – clothes, personal items, tools, cars, etc.). I’m angry that he decided I was no longer good enough, our home wasn’t good enough, and our pets weren’t good enough, even though he was actually the problem (which I didn’t realize for many, many months and blamed myself for in the meantime).
Again, I’m not perfect and I know I have fault in his unhappiness and in our marriage ending. However, for him to have said “we tried and it didn’t work” just a couple months in and all while having an affair behind my back is just so ugly. It seems so unfair and like a slap in the face. But that’s what I’ve been given so I’m just rolling with it and trying to remember that it’s for a purpose (for my good and God’s glory). And I know in my heart now that it’s what’s best for both of us and all part of the plan. I know that he’s happier without me and can live the life he always wanted and that makes me happy for him. And I’m working on my own happiness as well. I’m getting his things out of my home, trying to find the joys that make me happy, continuing to heal, and starting to live life again.
I’ve seen a lot of other people have divorce parties and celebrate with friends when their divorces are finalized. I’m not sure that I feel like celebrating since this doesn’t really feel like any kind of accomplishment, milestone, or victory, but I guess I am glad it’s done. As much as I wished it didn’t have to have ended this way, once I realized this was actually happening and we weren’t ever going to reconcile, I just wanted to get it over with.
So cheers. I’m officially divorced. Now, on to the next chapter. One that I hope will be much happier and filled with new love, good food, lots of dancing, and never ending joy, even through the hard times. And on a positive note, I get to have my own last name back!
For anyone else going through something similar, my heart breaks for you. I didn’t know how bad this actually is until I started going through it myself. It’s rough. Just remember that it’s all part of the plan. It might hurt now, but in the words of someone much wiser than me (AKA my mom), “you can’t start something new until you get rid of the old” . So try to stay positive, focus on the future, and stay strong, even when it hurts. You may not think so, but you’ll be better off in the long run.
All my love and support always,
-LS
by Lindsay | Jan 31, 2024 | Mind + Body
Hi there, fitness friends!
As a woman in her 30s who successfully lost 70 lbs over two years, I’m excited to share some tips from my personal weight loss journey. I achieved this transformation without any weight loss supplements, trainers, or quick-fix diets. It was all about changing my mindset, being sustainable, and finding what worked for my body.
Remember, these tips are based on my personal experiences and are not medical advice. Please consult your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet or exercise routine.
We’re all different and things that worked for me might not work for you, but hopefully you can find some of these methods helpful and can incorporate them into your own health and weight loss plan.
1. Track Everything
One of the most effective tools for me was the My Fitness Pal app. I diligently recorded everything I consumed, tracked my calories and nutrients, and logged my workouts. This practice helped me identify patterns in my eating and exercise habits. I also used the log to keep notes on YouTube workout videos, strength training exercises, the number of reps and sets, the weights I used, and how I liked the workout (difficulty level, how my knees felt afterward, how much I sweated during it haha). This tracking allowed me to repeat successful workouts and incorporate effective routines into my regular schedule.
2. Plan Ahead
Something about planning my meals and workouts in advance was a game-changer. It allowed me to visualize my daily and weekly goals, ensuring I knew exactly what to eat ahead of time and targeted all areas of my body without overworking specific muscle groups. Having a plan kept me on track with healthy eating and consistent exercise, which is crucial for long-term success. Again, I used the app to help with this, but also made notes in my planner and calendar. Anything that helps you stay organized and plan ahead is perfectly fine!
3. Make Workouts Fun and Short
Finding workouts I enjoyed was essential. I focused on low-impact, low-intensity cardio to protect my knees, especially when I was heavier. Walking became my go-to activity on days when I couldn’t do more intense workouts. The key was to stay active and move my body every day, even with a desk job.
4. Don’t Drink Your Calories
I limited my intake of high-calorie drinks like sweet tea and alcohol. Instead, I drank plenty of water—aiming for at least 8 cups a day. Switching from soda to sparkling flavored water like Bubly helped me satisfy my cravings without consuming empty calories. Occasionally, I’d have a small glass of apple or orange juice for variety.
5. Indulge in Moderation
As someone with a sweet tooth, I knew depriving myself completely would lead to binge eating. Allowing myself small treats, like a few Hershey’s Kisses or dark chocolate-covered almonds, helped curb cravings without derailing my progress. I also gave myself grace to enjoy special occasions, like having a piece of cake at a birthday party. Enjoying life and not being overly restrictive was vital for my mental well-being. Additionally, I learned to use fruit as a healthier way to satisfy my sweet cravings. For instance, cut-up apples with loads of cinnamon became a delicious replacement for less healthy dessert options.
6. Only Buy What You Need
One of the most effective strategies I adopted was to only buy the foods I needed and avoid purchasing items I knew I shouldn’t be eating. If unhealthy snacks and treats are in the house, the temptation to eat them is always present. By sticking to a shopping list of healthy essentials, I made it easier to stay on track and avoid unnecessary indulgences.
7. Get Enough Rest
Rest and recovery are just as important as diet and exercise. I made sure to get enough sleep and took days off from working out when needed. Overworking your body can do more harm than good, so listen to your body’s signals and allow it to recover.
8. Monitor Your Weight
I weighed myself daily to adjust my eating and workouts continually. However, weight can fluctuate due to various factors, so weekly or monthly monitoring might be less stressful. While I didn’t take photos or measurements initially due to feeling ashamed, tracking progress in multiple ways can be motivating. It’s a great reminder of how far you’ve come, especially on tough days.
9. Focus on the Long-Term Journey
Remember, weight loss is a long-term journey. Aim for overall health and sustainability rather than quick fixes. Even if you have an off day, don’t let it derail your progress. Get back on track, stay positive, and understand that occasional slip-ups are part of the process.
These strategies worked for me, and I hope they can inspire you on your journey. Every body is different, so find what works best for you and stay committed to your health goals. You’ve got this!
Stay healthy and happy,
-LS
by Lindsay | Jan 24, 2024 | Home + Life
Hey, friends!
Imagine waking up every morning feeling refreshed, energized, and ready to tackle the day ahead with a sense of purpose and direction. A productive start to your day is so beneficial in that it can help set the tone for how you navigate through the rest of your hours. Obviously the first key factor in that is to get a good night’s sleep. However, once you’re up and awake, by incorporating some small steps into the first part of your day and establishing a solid morning routine, you can unlock a world of potential within yourself. Simple things like focusing on planning and prioritizing daily tasks, properly fueling your body, getting ready physically and mentally, journaling, and taking time to meditate or pray can have such a positive impact. The objective is to be your most productive self every day and hopefully these seven tips will not only help you make the most out of your mornings and set you up for successful days, but also empower you to seize each day with enthusiasm and intention. So grab a cup of coffee (or tea), sit back, and get ready to transform your mornings into a powerful springboard for daily success!
Establish a morning routine: Consistent habits help set the tone
Establishing a morning routine is the cornerstone of setting a positive tone for your day. Consistent habits can give you a sense of structure, which I know personally helps me thrive, as well as give a sense of control over your time and actions.
Start by making your bed. This sounds simple and mundane, but this 2 minute task can create a huge sense of accomplishment and discipline right from the start. I do this every single day religiously, even when I’m planning a lounge day where I might pop back into bed mid-morning to watch a movie or mid-afternoon for a pick-me-up nap. And I also remake the bed again after every time I lay in it, just so it’s nice and fresh when I’m ready for sleep that evening.
Following up the bed making with your go-to “get ready” routine is a great next step. A refreshing shower, getting dressed, and fixing your hair and makeup can boost your confidence and drive for the day ahead.
By taking care of these basic grooming tasks in the morning, you signal to yourself that you are ready to face whatever challenges come your way. A well-groomed appearance can also enhance your self-esteem and make you feel more prepared to tackle any obstacles that may arise throughout the day. Dressing intentionally can further help set the tone for productivity, so choosing an outfit that makes you feel great about and confident in yourself can significantly impact how you approach tasks and interactions throughout the day.
The amount of “getting ready” you do can vary day to day, of course, but the most important part is taking that time for yourself and sticking with the routine, even if it’s a shortened version. Some days, like on a Tuesday when you have an important client luncheon and then taco Tuesday and margarita night with girlfriends after work, you might opt for a little more effort on your hair and makeup in the morning, along with wearing something a little more sophisticated that can easily go from day to night. Other days, like on a rainy Saturday, it might be just brushing your teeth and throwing on some lip gloss, leggings, and a messy bun. At least if you need to run to the grocery store later in the day you’ll already be ready! This small step can set you up for success even on your more relaxed days.
If you have pets, or in my case a small zoo, don’t forget to include them into your morning routine as well. My personal morning routine looks more like making my bed, letting all the dogs outside, feeding both the dogs and cats breakfast, then I start personally getting ready while they eat. By the time I’m done, the pups are usually ready to go out again while I move on to the next parts of my morning, which is food!
Eat a nutritious breakfast: Fuel your body.
Starting your day with a nutritious breakfast not only provides the necessary fuel for your body, but also jumpstarts your brain, helping you to better focus on the activities ahead. It’s crucial to remember that even a small morning meal can make a significant difference in your productivity levels throughout the day. Nourishing yourself properly at the beginning of the day, breaks the fast and sets a positive tone for your body for the rest of your day (unless of course you’re doing intermittent fasting, then in which case ignore this whole tip haha).
Aim to include a variety of food groups in your breakfast to ensure a well-rounded nutritional intake, which can enhance overall brain function and sustain your energy level until lunchtime. Consider incorporating whole grains, proteins, fruits, and veggies into your morning meal for optimal benefits. Something like a smoothie can be an amazing source of all these, as well as a quick and easy option if you’re short on time. Remember, food is more than just sustenance; it’s an essential tool in maintaining mental clarity and enhancing productivity from the moment you wake up.
Exercise or stretch: Boost energy and focus.
One of the most effective ways to kickstart a productive day is by incorporating some form of exercise or stretching into your morning routine. Movement can boost your energy levels and help enhance focus and mental sharpness. Research shows that even a short walk can elevate mood and increase cognitive function, making it an ideal way to jumpstart your day. So grab your furry friends and get outside before continuing your day!
By engaging in daily movement, whether it’s a quick yoga session or some light cardio, it’s a signal to yourself that it’s time to focus and be productive. Physical activity releases endorphins, which are known as the feel-good hormones that help combat stress and improve overall well-being. So the next time you feel sluggish or unfocused in the morning, consider lacing up those sneaks for a revitalizing workout session that will set a positive tone for the rest of your day.
Remember, movement doesn’t have to be intense or time-consuming to reap its benefits. Even simple stretching exercises for a few minutes can stimulate blood flow and oxygen circulation throughout your body, leading to increased alertness and productivity. It’s totally fine to save the gym session or intense high-impact training for later in the day. Personally I do better working out more intensely in the evenings, so I keep my morning movements light and quick. On the days I do opt for a more intense morning session, I’ll do a low-impact fasted cardio, which I actually complete before moving on to showering and breakfast. Depending on the style, intensity, and length of your individual morning workouts, you might also prefer to do them every morning before eating and getting ready. No matter the order, these are just suggestions that work for me, but please do whatever works for your body, mind, and schedule. Embrace the power of movement, even short and sweet ones, as a tool to enhance focus and motivation right from the start of your day, setting yourself up for success in all your endeavors.
Set goals for the day: Stay organized.
When aiming for a productive start to your day, setting clear goals is essential. Be specific with what you want to achieve and outline the steps needed to get there. Break down larger tasks into smaller, more manageable ones which can help maintain focus and motivation throughout the day. By prioritizing these goals, you ensure that your time and energy are dedicated to what truly matters, increasing your efficiency and productivity.
To further boost productivity, consider time blocking as a strategy to stay on track. Allocate specific time slots for different tasks or activities, providing structure to your day while reducing distractions. This method might be helpful to ensure that every task receives attention and also allows for breaks in between activities, promoting a balanced workflow. Embrace this time management approach as a way to enhance productivity and achieve your daily objectives successfully.
Prioritize tasks: Focus on the most important first.
Along the same lines as goal setting, another good method to kickstart a productive day is to set aside some time in the morning to plan and prioritize your tasks. In addition to goals and the things you WANT to get done, you might have things you NEED to get done. Utilize a calendar, scheduling tool, or task managing program to map out your day, allocating specific time slots for essential activities. By having a clear roadmap, you can stay focused and organized throughout the day, ensuring that no task slips through the cracks and you have plenty of time for both the things you want and need to accomplish every day to meet your goals.
Prioritizing tasks is key to enhancing productivity. If you have the time in your schedule, depending on what each day looks like, you might opt to start your day by tackling the most important, challenging, or time-consuming tasks first. This could allow you to focus your energy on high-impact activities first and get them out of the way to focus on easier or less structured things later on in the afternoon. Tackling the tough stuff first and getting it out of the way will then free up mental space for other tasks as you progress through your schedule. Remember, effective planning coupled with strategic prioritization are powerful tools in achieving a productive start to your day!
Minimize distractions: Create a focused environment.
To maximize productivity at the start of your day, it’s crucial to minimize distractions and create a focused environment. One effective way to achieve this is by keeping your phone out of sight while planning your goals and tasks for the day, as well as when working. By reducing the temptation to constantly check notifications or scroll through social media, you can maintain better concentration and significantly boost your workflow productivity and time management. In addition, setting specific goals for each work session can provide a clear direction and purpose, helping you stay on track and make progress towards achieving your objectives. It’s totally fine to pencil in some social media and other scrolling times! Just be sure you’re not doing it during the times you’ve blocked off to focus on work.
Staying focused is not just about avoiding external distractions however. It also involves managing internal interruptions, such as procrastination or self-doubt. Maintaining a positive mindset and having self-discipline are key factors in successfully navigating daily tasks and responsibilities. By staying committed to minimizing distractions, reminding yourself to stay on tasks and stay motivated, remaining attentive to your goals, and actively working towards achieving them, you’ll set yourself up for a highly productive start to each day. Personally, I like to look at my days like this: the sooner I can get everything done, the sooner I’m free to enjoy time with my furballs or a night out with friends. The only way to do that is to limit distractions, stay focused, and get it done!
Practice mindfulness or meditation: Center yourself.
One powerful way to start your day on a productive note is by incorporating mindfulness or meditation into your morning routine. Taking a few moments to center yourself, clear your mind, and focus on the present can significantly enhance your mental clarity and set a positive tone for the day ahead. This practice not only boosts productivity, but also promotes overall well-being, helping you navigate challenges with a calmer demeanor. Personally during my “meditation” time is when I pray or read my Bible. Even if it’s only for 20 minutes each morning, taking this “me” time to relax, clear my mind, envision my day, and talk to God is a perfect way to get a successful day started.
Another key tip for maximizing productivity is being intentional with your time and attention. By setting clear goals and priorities for the day, you can allocate resources effectively and stay focused on what truly matters. Avoiding distractions and unnecessary tasks allows you to invest energy in activities that align with your long-term objectives, leading to greater success and fulfillment in both personal and professional endeavors.
Follow these tips to start your day right!
Incorporating these 7 tips into your morning routine can set the tone for a productive and successful day ahead. By prioritizing tasks and goals, avoiding distractions, and being intentional with your actions, you can boost your efficiency and focus. Remember to nourish your body with a healthy breakfast and some exercise to energize your mind and body. Establishing a consistent morning “get ready” routine will provide structure and stability, helping you stay organized and prepared for whatever challenges come your way. Start implementing some or all of these tips tomorrow morning to experience a more productive start to each day. I hope you’re able to quickly see how they transform your mornings into opportunities for growth and achievement!
With love and productive vibes,
-LS
