I’m beyond thrilled to share that I’m about to go on my first real vacation as an adult! After years of dreaming about sandy shores and ocean breezes, it’s finally happening. In just a few short weeks, I’ll be heading to the beach and staying in a surprisingly affordable vacation rental condo right on the Gulf. Talk about convenience. We’ll be just a few steps from laying in the sand, tanning, swimming, and maybe even some sea fishing anytime we want. Excited doesn’t begin to describe how I feel!
Having said that, I tend to be an overthinker, overplanner, and overpacker. I love being extra prepared, trying to anticipate everything we might need in any situation ahead of time. Plus, since I haven’t been on a vacation in a while, I’m a little out of practice on planning and packing everything we’ll need for a beach trip. We’ll be driving to our beach destination which means space will be limited in the vehicle and I want to keep myself from bringing everything but the kitchen sink. So I’ve put together this packing list to help ensure I have all the essentials without going too overboard and wanted to share these beach vacation packing tips with you as well.
Beach Bag Essentials
1. The Beach Bag: First and foremost, you’ll want a durable and possibly large bag to carry all your essentials to the beach. One that’s water resistant and easy to rinse off is an added bonus.
2. Sunscreen: This is a no-brainer, but it’s worth mentioning. Choose a broad-spectrum SPF 30 or higher and make sure you have one that’s safe for the whole family to use. Also don’t forget to pack a lip balm with SPF, too!
3. Towels: Large, absorbent beach towels are a must, especially for little ones who might get chilly quickly. Consider quick-dry towels if you’re short on packing space, so they can be reused if making multiple, frequent trips to the water.
4. Beach Hat: A wide-brimmed hat to protect your face and scalp from the sun is a great idea.
5. Sunglasses: Polarized lenses that protect against UVA and UVB rays are best to shield your eyes and reduce glare from the water.
6. Beach Cover-Up: Something light and airy that you can easily slip on over your swimsuit or shorts and a tank if that’s more your style.
Clothing
1. Swimsuits: At least two or more, depending on how long your trip is and how much time you’ll spend swimming. That way you always have a clean, dry one ready to go.
2. Casual Day Outfits: Light, breathable fabrics are your best friend. Think sundresses, shorts, tank tops, and t-shirts.
3. Evening Wear: Depending on your other non-beach plans, remember a couple of nicer outfits for dinners or evenings out. A maxi dress or a chic jumpsuit can be both comfortable, cool, and stylish.
4. Pajamas: Opt for items that are lightweight and comfortable!
5. Undergarments: Don’t forget enough for the duration of your trip and always, always take extras.
6. Activewear: If you plan on staying on your fitness routine while on vacation with morning jogs on the beach or yoga, pack a couple of workout outfits.
7. Footwear:
Flip-Flops/Sandals: Comfortable and easy to slip on and off. Also easy to dump sand out of and rinse off before heading home.
Casual/Athletic Shoes: Comfortable walking shoes or sneakers for exploring, hiking, or exercising.
Dressy Shoes: Something nicer for dinners and evenings out.
8. Extras: Just in case you don’t have laundry facilities, make sure to bring extras of everything (not just undies).
Personal Care Items
1. Toiletries: Face wash, body wash, loofah, razor, toothbrush, toothpaste, moisturizer, and cotton swabs. Consider travel-sized bottles to save space. Don’t forget feminine products that are beach appropriate, just in case.
2. Moisturizer: In addition to sunscreen, lotions, after-sun moisturizers, and aloe vera gel to soothe your skin are great ideas.
3. Hair Care: A wide-tooth comb, hair ties and clips, shampoo, conditioner, leave-in conditioner to combat tangles and dryness, and styling products. Sea salt spray is a great product to help enhance those perfect air dried beachy waves.
4. Makeup: For water days, I like to keep my face minimal and bronzy, but with an emphasis on sun protection. My suggestions would be waterproof mascara, tinted moisturizer with SPF, and a lip tint or balm (also with SPF). Maybe bring a small eyeshadow or blush palette as well for dinners or evenings out.
5. Medication: Don’t forget any prescription medications for each family member, plus a basic first aid kit with band-aids, antiseptic wipes, anti-itch ointments, antacids, and pain relievers for all age groups in your family.
Miscellaneous Must-Haves
1. Reusable Water Bottle: Stay hydrated throughout the day, especially in the sun and when in hotter climates than you’re used to.
2. Snacks: Healthy options like nuts, dried fruit, and granola bars and things that won’t melt in the sun all day are a plus.
3. Books/Kindle: Perfect for relaxing on the beach or unwinding before bed.
4. Portable Charger: Keep your devices charged for photos and emergency calls.
5. Laptop: If you’re someone who works on the go, make sure to have your laptop, mouse, and any other necessary accessories.
6. Beach Blanket: For lounging comfortably on the sand.
7. Beach Chairs and Canopy or Umbrella: For comfort and shade on the beach. Try to find options that are easy to assemble/put up, lightweight, and compact.
8. Cooler: To keep drinks and snacks cool during your beach days.
9. Entertainment: Playing cards, beach games, or a frisbee for both beach entertainment and for use at the house or condo before and after outings.
10. Waterproof Phone Case: Protect your phone from water damage with a waterproof case, which might also help protect it from sand. You may opt to leave your phone at “home” for the day, but they’re always nice to have for capturing photos of those memorable vacation moments with your family.
11. Fishing Gear: If you’re planning to fish, make sure you have all the necessary equipment.
12. Food and Drinks: Plan for meals in addition to your snacks. Think easy-to-pack options like sandwiches, fruit, and chips.
13. Bluetooth Speaker: For some beach tunes or for use at the condo or hotel.
14. Board Games/Card Games: Fun for the evenings or rainy days.
15. Emergency kit: If you’re planning to drive to your destination, make sure you have tools to change a tire, jumper cables, and a flashlight, just in case.
Pro Packing Tips
1. Create a Checklist: Mark off items as you pack them to ensure nothing is forgotten. Whether you’re a pen and paper or a phone app kind of gal, make sure you have a list you can use for both packing to depart and for returning home. I’ve created a free printable list you’re welcome to use to help get you started with the basics.
2. Roll Your Clothes: This will save space and minimize wrinkles.
3. Packing Cubes: Keep your suitcase organized and make it easier to find items.
4. Ziplock Baggies: Great for keeping wet clothes separate or protecting electronics from sand and water.
I hope this list helps you feel as prepared as possible for your next beach vacation without going over the deep end and bringing your entire household. But worst case scenario, remember that if you forget something, your vacation spot likely has grocery stores, convenience stores, pharmacies, and other local shops to pick up whatever you need. So don’t stress and try to enjoy the sun, surf, and sand – you deserve it. If you have any additional must-pack items or tips, feel free to share them in the comments with me too!
Have you ever asked yourself what to get your husband/boyfriend/dad/brother for his birthday? I know I have. It’s not about being the perfect wife, girlfriend, etc and buying the perfect gift. It’s about giving the special man in your life something so special and seeing the excitement on their face when they unwrap it or learn that they’re going to do something exciting with you. It’s so special to give something to our men that will truly make them happy, especially after all they do for us. As we celebrate these special guys, whether it’s a significant other, father, brother, or son, finding the perfect birthday gift can be a delightful yet challenging task. Striking the balance between practicality and sentimentality, while still being something manly and wanted, let’s explore a variety of gift ideas tailored to suit the diverse tastes and interests for the men in our lives. And hey, these gifts might be perfect for Father’s Day or other holidays as well, not just birthdays!
I’ve broken this list into two sections; one for tangible gifts and one for gifts that are actually experiences. So whether your hubby, boyfriend, dad, or brother like to unwrap something or prefer to have an adventure on their special day, here are some ideas that will captivate all kinds of different interests.
Thoughtful Gifts He Can Unwrap
1. Classy Timepieces:
A sophisticated watch not only adds a touch of elegance, but also serves as a timeless and classic accessory. Depending on your budgets and his tastes in jewelry, you can consider brands like Rolex, Seiko, Citizen, or Fossil for quality craftsmanship. Be sure to take into account his likes, colors he typically wears, and practicality (whether for everyday wear or special dressed up occasions). In addition to a watch, I also recently got my special someone a beautiful wooden case with a glass top that stores and displays all his watches.
2. Signature Cologne:
Pick up a bottle of his favorite go-to cologne or if he’s comfortable experimenting, enhance his charm with a brand new signature scent that complements his personality and style. Opt for popular fragrances from brands like YSL, Versace, Ralph Lauren, or Dior. Make sure it’s something that you feel he’ll like, but also something that will please your sniffer as well since you’ll be smelling it, too.
3. Quality Knives Set:
For the culinary enthusiast or chef in your life, a set of high-quality kitchen knives can elevate his cooking experience. Look for renowned brands like Wusthof, Shun, or Zwilling for durable and precise blades. Or for a more personalized and truly unique experience, check out a local forgery and have a knife custom made just for your special man and even opt to include his initials for an even more personalized experience.
4. Personalized Leather Wallet:
Add a personal touch with a monogrammed leather wallet, combining practicality with style. Be sure to take his preferences like front pocket or back pocket and bi-fold or tri-fold in mind when picking out the perfect design. Explore online retailers like Etsy for customizable options.
5. Gourmet Food Basket:
If your special someone is a foodie, indulge his taste buds with a curated selection of gourmet treats, including artisanal cheeses, fine wines, and gourmet chocolates.
6. Tech Gadgets:
From wireless headphones and Bluetooth speakers to smart home devices and watches, technology enthusiasts will appreciate the latest gadgets to enhance their daily routines. Check out retailers like Best Buy for the best brands, overall value, or latest and greatest features.
7. Customized Photo Album:
Compile cherished memories into a beautifully designed photo album or scrapbook, capturing the moments you’ve shared together that he can proudly display at his business or home office. Even just a single picture of the two in a unique or special frame can be a sentimental gift that he’ll enjoy and can adorn his desk for years to come.
8. Stylish Executive Accessories:
Elevate his professional wardrobe with a sleek and functional leather briefcase or messenger bag. The best part is these accessories are not only great for work, but can be perfect for travel as well. And if your man is someone who travels for work more often than the average person, another great idea might be to invest in a matching set of luggage, toiletry accessories, and travel briefcase so he arrives at each new destination in style. Check out brands like Samsonite or Coach, or even look for great finds on Amazon.
9. Outdoor Grilling Set:
For the barbecue aficionado, a full grilling set complete with tools, spices, sauces, and accessories will enhance his outdoor cooking experience. Or better yet, a brand new pit might be an excellent option if it’s something he’s been looking at and is within your budget.
10. Craft Beer or Whiskey Tasting Set:
Treat him to a tasting experience with a curated selection of craft beers or premium whiskeys, allowing him to explore new flavors and aromas. And on the plus side for you, local breweries and wineries are wonderful venues for romantic date nights!
11. Fitness Tracker or Smartwatch:
Help him stay active and organized with a fitness tracker or smartwatch that monitors his daily activities, workouts, and notifications on the go. Be sure to get one that’s compatible with his cellphone whether he’s an iPhone or Android user.
12. Luxurious Tie or Pocket Square:
Upgrade his wardrobe with a luxurious silk tie or pocket square in a classic or contemporary design, adding a touch of sophistication to his ensemble. This is a great option for someone with exquisite taste who dresses well frequently for work purposes.
13. EDC Item Collector:
Keep his essentials (AKA “every day carry” or “EDC” items) organized and easily accessible, as well as declutter your home all in one with a sleek organizer designed for keys, pocket knives, watches, and more. Keep your countertops or bedside tables free from miscellaneous things being left about after work each day and also help to streamline his daily routine with this stylish and practical gift. Some organizers can even contain chargers for cellphones and smart watches.
14. Personalized Leather Journal:
Encourage his creativity with a beautifully crafted leather journal, customized with his initials or a meaningful message. Whether he enjoys writing, sketching, or jotting down thoughts for personal or work reminders, this timeless gift will inspire him to document his journey and aspirations.
Memorable Gifts He Can Experience
1. Concert Tickets:
Treat him to an unforgettable night out with tickets to see his favorite band or artist live in concert. Check websites like Ticketmaster or StubHub for upcoming events, or visit the direct websites of some of his favorite artists for tour dates in your area.
2. Exotic Car Rental:
Fulfill his automotive dreams with an exhilarating drive in a luxury sports car. Rent a Lamborghini, Ferrari, or Porsche for a day of adrenaline-fueled adventure.
3. Racetrack Experience:
For the adrenaline junkie, gift him a thrilling day at the racetrack where he can test his driving skills behind the wheel of a high-performance race car. Some tracks have bring-your-own-car experiences, while others allow you drive actual sports cars, with or without professional drivers. Check out your local oval or street tracks to explore your options.
4. Weekend Getaway:
Plan a romantic weekend getaway to his favorite destination, whether it’s a cozy cabin in the mountains or a beachfront resort by the sea. Take this opportunity to reconnect and create lasting memories together (with or without the kids…no judgment either way!).
5. Outdoor Adventure:
Embark on an outdoor adventure such as hiking, camping, or fishing, allowing him to unwind and reconnect with nature. Go as a family or if he needs some relaxing alone time away, partner with his buddies so they can join in on a guys only weekend.
6. Sports Game Tickets:
Surprise him with tickets to see his favorite sports team play live, whether it’s football, baseball, soccer, or boxing. Share in the excitement of cheering on the home team from the stands.
7. Hot Air Balloon Ride:
For the thrill seeker in your life, give him with a breathtaking hot air balloon ride, offering panoramic views of picturesque landscapes and a truly unforgettable experience.
8. Gourmet Cooking Class:
Sharpen his culinary skills with a gourmet cooking class led by professional chefs, where he can learn new techniques and recipes to impress family and friends. Whether he’s into Italian or Mexican, there’s sure to be a class around you local area that he can participate in.
9. Wine Tasting Tour:
Book a wine tasting tour through scenic vineyards and wineries, indulging in the finest wines and culinary delights along the way. Again, this is another opportunity for a romantic date idea that the two of you can actually enjoy together.
10. Private Yacht Charter:
Charter a private yacht for a romantic day on the water, complete with gourmet dining, snorkeling, and sunset views for a luxurious and intimate experience.
11. VIP Upgrade:
Upgrade his game day or concert with VIP tickets, access to exclusive lounges, and meet-and-greet opportunities with athletes or artists for an unforgettable sporting or musical event experience.
12. Helicopter Tour:
Take to the skies with a thrilling helicopter tour of iconic landmarks and breathtaking scenery, offering a unique perspective and lasting memories. Book a tour of your home town or the nearest larger city for even more beautiful views.
13. Skydiving Adventure:
Lift his birthday celebration to new heights with a thrilling skydiving experience. Tandem jump from thousands of feet above the ground, feeling the rush of adrenaline as you freefall through the sky before safely parachuting back to earth. It’s an exhilarating adventure that the adventure junkie in your life will never forget.
14. Storm Chasing Expedition:
For the adventurous soul who seeks excitement and adrenaline, embark on a thrilling storm chasing expedition. Join experienced meteorologists and chase epic storms across breathtaking landscapes, witnessing the awe-inspiring power of nature up close. From dramatic lightning displays to swirling tornadoes, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime adventure that promises unforgettable memories.
By considering his interests, hobbies, and preferences, you can select a thoughtful gift or plan an unforgettable experience that celebrates his uniqueness, pleases his soul, and even strengthens your bond as a couple. Whether it’s a tangible gift or an amazing adventure, the most important aspect is the thought and effort you put into making his birthday truly special.
The aftermath of a breakup or divorce can be one of the most challenging journeys we undertake, especially the older we get and after longer time periods with that person. As someone who has recently divorced from a marriage, plus over a decade total together, I understand the whirlwind of emotions that come with such a life-altering event. Going through the healing process is a rollercoaster and definitely not linear. Plus, disconnecting the life you built and merged together, navigating the situation with kids, and just learning how to start over on your own can all be very scary, surreal, and overwhelming. However, once we make it over the complexities and difficulties, I’m very pleased to say it does get better and you can find happiness once again. Today, I want to share my personal experience and some insights on healing, knowing when you’re ready to move on, and dipping your toes back into the dating pool after a divorce in your 30s.
Healing After Heartbreak
Healing is the first and most crucial step. It’s perfectly fine to feel hurt, lost, scared, and overwhelmed. Give yourself the grace to feel and process these emotions, and any others you may experience. For me, it involved rediscovering passions I had set aside, spending quality time with myself and the furballs, reconnecting with my needs, and updating my home to create a happy space just for myself. Spending intentional alone time may be helpful and taking a short break from typical social events is okay. Your community will understand! On the contrary, therapy, support groups, and extra friend and family time can be incredibly helpful during this time as well. Remember, healing doesn’t look the same for everyone and there’s no set timeline on how long it should or will take. It’s about finding what works for you, allowing yourself to grieve and grow at your own pace, rediscovering your new self, and taking the best care of your needs and well-being (both physically and mentally) in the meantime.
Know When You’re Ready
How do you know when you’re ready to date again? It’s different for everyone. Some signs might include feeling genuinely excited about the prospect of meeting new people, having a clearer sense of what you want in a partner (or maybe knowing what you DON’T want), and feeling emotionally stable. For me, the thought of moving on almost felt like a betrayal to the partner I had been with for so long, so when the thought of dating someone new no longer gives you negative feelings, but instead fills you with curiosity and hope, that could be your sign. I also knew it might be time to move on after I stopped missing my marriage and wishing it hadn’t worked out the way it did, and finally had started to accept what “is” without the longing to get the things I had back. I finally started to embrace the thought of a new life with someone new who could love me in the ways that I needed. Someone wise (my mom) kept telling me, “you can’t open the door to something new until you close the door to the old” and that was really helpful advice to help keep me moving forward.
Put Yourself Out There
So, how do you start dating again? The idea can be daunting, but remember, you’re not alone. Many women (and men!) in their 30s are in the same boat. Start small and be gentle with yourself. When you do meet people, look out for red flags, patterns you see from past relationships, and follow your gut instincts to help protect yourself from making the same mistakes or from being hurt again. It’s not that you have to build a fortress around your heart and never let anyone in again. You just don’t want to be too cautious and settle for just anyone. You’re worth happiness and someone who is going to treat you the way you deserve, so never accept any less!
When you’re ready, here are some ways to get back into the dating scene:
Online Dating Apps and Websites: Popular dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Match.com allow you to create profiles and connect with potential matches based on your preferences and interests.
Speed Dating Events: Many cities host speed dating events where you can meet a large number of potential partners in a short period of time. These events are structured to give you brief, timed interactions with each participant.
Matchmaking Services: Professional matchmakers and matchmaking services can help you find compatible partners based on your personality, interests, and relationship goals. These services often provide a personalized and curated dating experience.
Singles Meetup Groups: Websites like Meetup.com have groups specifically for singles looking to meet others. These groups organize various activities, from social gatherings to outdoor adventures, specifically designed for singles.
Virtual Dating Events: Virtual speed dating or online social events have become increasingly popular, especially post-pandemic. These events allow you to meet people from the comfort of your home via video chat.
Social Media Platforms: Platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn can be used to connect with potential romantic partners. Joining groups or participating in discussions related to your interests can lead to meaningful connections. Many of these sites also have groups dedicated to meeting singles with common interests in your particular area.
Online Interest Groups and Forums: Participating in online forums, Reddit communities, or interest-based groups (e.g., gaming, literature, travel) can help you meet like-minded individuals. Some of these connections can transition into romantic relationships and if not, you might be able to make new friends!
Singles Cruises or Travel Groups: Companies organize cruises and travel packages specifically for singles. These trips are designed to foster social interactions and romantic connections among participants.
Dating Coaches and Workshops: Engaging with a dating coach or attending dating workshops can provide you with strategies and opportunities to meet potential partners. These services often include social events and networking opportunities.
Community Classes and Workshops (with a dating focus): Some community centers and organizations offer classes or workshops specifically geared toward singles. These might include dance classes, cooking classes, or other activities designed to facilitate meeting new people in a structured environment.
Meet People Organically
Meeting new people and building relationships organically can sometimes feel more authentic and more traditional. Although you never know when you’ll meet someone, meaning the process might take a little longer when you’re not actively pursuing a partner, there’s something so romantic about an unexpected meet-cute. If you’re ready to start slow or just not into the more modern approaches to dating that I’ve already mentioned, just being active and present in your community can help you can meet Mr. Right along the way when the timing is perfect. Here are some great places to consider that he might also be:
Community Volunteering Events: Joining local charity events, community clean-ups, or volunteering at a food bank can be a great way to meet like-minded people who are interested in giving back to the community.
Farmer’s Markets: Local farmer’s markets are perfect for casual interactions. You can strike up conversations about fresh produce, artisanal goods, or even local food vendors. Many markets also have live music or small events that encourage mingling.
Art Shows and Galleries: Attending local art shows, gallery openings, or craft fairs can attract a diverse crowd of creative and culturally inclined individuals. These settings often have relaxed atmospheres conducive to starting conversations.
Local Bookstores or Libraries: Many independent bookstores and libraries host book readings, author signings, and discussion groups. These events can attract people who share a love for literature and learning.
Community Fitness Classes: Joining a local yoga, pilates, or group fitness class can be an excellent way to meet people who prioritize health and wellness. Many studios also host social events or wellness workshops.
Cooking Classes or Food Tastings: Participating in cooking classes, wine tastings, or culinary workshops can be a fun and interactive way to meet others who enjoy food and cooking.
Local Coffee Shops or Cafes: Frequenting a local coffee shop can help you become part of the regular crowd. Many coffee shops also host open mic nights, poetry readings, or casual meetups.
Outdoor Adventure Groups: Joining a hiking club, biking group, or kayaking meetup can be a great way to meet active and adventurous individuals. Many outdoor groups have regular outings and social gatherings.
Community Festivals or Street Fairs: Attending local festivals, street fairs, or cultural celebrations can be an exciting way to meet people in a festive and vibrant atmosphere.
Language Exchange Meetups: Participating in language exchange meetups or cultural clubs can help you meet people interested in learning new languages and cultures, providing a unique and educational environment for socializing.
Remain Hopeful
Starting over can be intimidating (believe me, I know all too well!), but it’s also a time of great potential and excitement. Embrace this new chapter with an open heart and mind. Remember, it’s perfectly okay to move at your own pace and to set boundaries that make you feel comfortable. There’s no pressure or time limit to when any of this should be happening so go at your own pace. It’s important to remain hopeful and believe in the possibility of finding happiness and discovering love again, when you’re ready.
I want to remind all of you that it’s never too late to find your happily ever after. Your age or chapter in life shouldn’t define when or how you should fall in love. Every experience, every connection, and every step forward brings us closer to the love and joy we all deserve. So keep your heart open and your spirit hopeful. Love and happiness are absolutely within reach, even after the heartbreak of divorce.
To all of you wonderful ladies on similar paths, I hope you find comfort in knowing you’re not alone. Let’s support each other and celebrate every step forward, no matter how small. And if dating again isn’t for you, that’s absolutely understandable, relatable, perfectly okay, and we celebrate you as well!
With love and the hope of romantic happiness once again,
It’s with an extremely heavy heart that I share that our sweet little shop cat, Jewels, passed away today. I’m so grateful that I was able to say goodbye to her yesterday evening and that we were blessed with an amazing 16 years with her. But as one of my longest friendships (both pet and people), it’s really hard to imagine going to work every day without her. She started out as a scrappy street cat who was adopted to help keep the field mice away from the office (we’re located in the country in between two corn fields). She was fierce and feisty, earning her a nickname of “Crazy”. However, in her older age, she calmed down quite a bit and became a talkative and snuggly lovebug who loved to eat and throw up hairballs. Last year when I was going through my divorce, she would sit with me after everyone else left for the day and simply be there for me, purring away as I cried and poured my heart out to her. She was the perfect little friend and always there when I needed her. They say pets are sometimes better than people because the only time they’ll ever hurt us is when it’s time to say goodbye. I believe that’s true. The office isn’t going to be the same without her. I’m going to miss her dearly.
Rest well my sweet angel. “I’ll see you tomorrow”.
Losing a pet can be an incredibly painful experience. These companions often become cherished members of our families and become such important parts of our home (or work) lives. They provide unconditional love, affection, and joy. When they pass on, it can leave an emptiness in our hearts and a profound sense of loss. Coping with the grief of losing a pet is a deeply personal journey, but there are ways to navigate through this difficult time and find healing. I’ve actually lost 4 pets in total in the last 4 years, including our “Crazy” girl, Jewels, along with my German Shepherds, Vada, Lukas, and Logan. It definitely doesn’t get easier no matter how many times you have to experience it, but there are things we can do to help us get through the pain a little bit at a time.
Allow Yourself Time to Grieve:
The loss of a pet is a significant event and it’s important to acknowledge and validate your feelings of grief. Give yourself permission to mourn and express your emotions in whatever way feels right for you. Whether it’s crying, talking to friends and family, looking through old photos and videos of your pet, or just spending time alone, allow yourself the space to grieve without judgment. There’s also no time limit on grief and it’s a process that’s different for everyone. Have grace and patience with yourself as you walk through it and ask your loved ones to support you in those same ways as well.
Celebrate Your Pet’s Life:
Instead of focusing solely on the loss, celebrate the life and memories you shared with your pet. Create a scrapbook or photo album filled with happy moments, funny pictures, and cherished memories like their “gotcha day” or birthdays. Reflecting on the joy your pet brought into your life can help ease the pain of their absence. Try to feel comfort in the fact that even though their life was too short, they spent it with you and you showed them unconditional love until the very end. They were happy and had a good life because you were a part of it.
Reach Out for Support:
During this difficult time, don’t hesitate to lean on friends, family, or support groups who understand the unique bond between humans and their pets. Talking to others who have experienced similar loss can provide comfort and reassurance that you’re not alone in your grief.
Create a Memorial:
Honoring your pet’s memory can be a meaningful way to cope with their loss. Planting a tree or flower in their honor, creating a memorial plaque, or making a donation to an animal charity in their name are all thoughtful ways to pay tribute to your beloved companion. If you decide to cremate your pet, maybe pick out an urn that speaks to their personality and create a special place in your home to display it, along with some items like their favorite toy, collar or leash, a candle, and some photos.
Maintain Routine and Self-Care:
While grieving, it’s important to maintain a sense of normalcy in your daily life as much as possible. As impossible as it seems to go on since they were such a huge part of your day-to-day, try to stick to your regular routines, whether it’s walking your dog’s usual route or keeping up with feeding schedules for other pets. Additionally, prioritize self-care activities such as exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough rest to support your emotional well-being during this mentally draining time.
Consider Seeking Professional Help:
If you find that your grief is overwhelming and interfering with your ability to function, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor experienced in pet loss can provide support and guidance as you walk through your grief journey.
Give Yourself Time to Heal:
Healing from the loss of a pet is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself the space to heal at your own pace. Remember that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It can be a rollercoaster, with good days then not so good days, and that’s a perfectly normal part of the process. You will never fully forget, but with time it can get easier to deal with the pain and start to regain your daily life.
Consider a New Pet (When You’re Ready):
While no pet can ever replace the one you lost, opening your heart to a new animal companion can bring joy and comfort into your life. When you feel ready, consider adopting a new pet from a shelter or rescue organization. The love and companionship of a new pet can help ease the pain of your loss and bring renewed purpose and happiness into your life. I can personally attest to having other pets in my home right after losing my pets helped me tremendously. When I came home crying after losing my girl Vada, I sat on my couch and just balled. My cat came and sat with me like he knew I was hurting and just wanted to comfort me. The love and bond between us and our pets is amazing and sometimes having another one to lean on during or after a difficult time can really be beneficial.
Losing a pet is a truly heartbreaking experience, but it’s also a testament to the deep connection and love we share with our animal babies. By allowing yourself to grieve, seeking support from others, and honoring your pet’s memory, you can find healing and comfort in the midst of loss. While your pet may no longer be physically with you, the love and memories you shared will live on in your heart forever and those are the things that made your pet’s life amazing.
Even though she didn’t live with me, I saw Jewels every workday for 16 years. Honestly, there’s a good chance I’ve spent more time with her than with my own furballs, especially since she’s the longest living pet I’ve ever had. I’m going to miss her so much, but am so grateful for all the time and love we shared together. If you’re also grieving the loss of a pet, hang in there, fellow furball parents and friends. I see you and it will get better, eventually. Be patient with yourself and remember that it’s okay to feel whatever it is you need to feel for as long as you need to feel it.
Planning a vacation can be both exhilarating and a little stressful if not organized and executed properly, especially with a busy lifestyle filled with work, family, and social commitments. Whether you’re dreaming of a weekend getaway with your husband in your home state, or a cross-country or international adventure with the whole family, having a well-thought-out plan is key to ensuring a stress-free and enjoyable trip. Here’s a little guide to help you plan your next vacation to help make sure nothing gets overlooked.
Step 1: Pick Your Location
Timeline: Up to 6-12 months in advance
1. Interest and Preferences: Consider what type of vacation you want. Are you looking for relaxation on a beach, an adventure in the mountains, cultural immersion in a foreign city, or a mix of everything?
2. Research: Look into different destinations that match your interests. Read travel blogs, watch vlogs, visit travel guru social media pages, and check out travel guides for inspiration.
3. Budget: Determine how much you’re willing/able to spend. Some destinations may be more budget-friendly than others and maybe you’ll want to put off longer getaways or trips abroad until it makes sense with your current budget.
4. Documentation: Make sure you have passports and other travel documents in place or apply for them during this time period if planning an international location, that way your plans don’t get held up waiting for things to arrive.
Step 2: Choose Your Dates
Timeline: Up to 6-9 months in advance
1. Seasonality: Consider the best time to visit your chosen destination. Look into weather patterns, peak tourist seasons, and any local events or festivals in your destination that might enhance or hinder your plans during your specific desired timeframe.
2. Work and School Schedules: Check your work calendar and any school schedules if you have kids. I like to plan vacations around holidays and long weekends when possible to maximize time off.
3. Flexibility: If possible, be flexible with your dates to take advantage of better rates on flights and accommodations during off-peak days or months.
Step 3: Schedule Time Off
Timeline: Up to 3-6 months in advance
1. Request Time Off: Submit your vacation request to your employer well in advance. Ensure you have enough vacation days saved up for the duration of your trip. It’s also helpful to plan for an extra day off before and after to help with last minute packing and then unwinding before heading back to the office.
2. Plan Around Commitments: Make sure you’re not missing any important work deadlines, family events, or social commitments.
Step 4: Book Flights and Accommodations
Timeline: Up to 3-6 months in advance
1. Flights: Use flight comparison websites to find the best deals. Set price alerts to get notified of any price drops.
2. Accommodations: Research hotels, vacation rentals, and alternative accommodations like hostels or bed-and-breakfasts. Read reviews and check locations to ensure they fit your needs, are clean, and are convenient with your plans.
Step 5: Plan the Itinerary
Timeline: Up to 2-3 months in advance
1. Must-See Sights: Make a list of attractions and activities you don’t want to miss. Prioritize them based on your interests and their popularity. Be sure to take into consideration all ages of the people in your group to make sure everyone can participate or plan for child care accordingly if you’re planning adult activities.
2. Day Trips: Research nearby places that could make for interesting day trips.
3. Meals: Look into local cuisine and popular restaurants. Make reservations if needed, especially for high-demand spots and during peak hours and seasons.
Step 6: Prepare and Start to Pack
Timeline: Up to 1-2 months in advance
1. Packing Checklist: Create a packing list tailored to your destination and activities. Consider the climate, length of stay, and any special events you’ll attend. Starting this list in advance ensures you’ll have plenty of time to pick up any items you might need for the trip so you’re not having to do that last minute the day before (been there, done that!).
– Clothing: Pack versatile pieces that can be mixed and matched. Consider layers for varying weather conditions.
– Toiletries and Essentials: Don’t forget to get travel sizes of everything according to current guidelines if you’re traveling by air and pay even more particular attention to what you’re allowed to take on international flights.
– Gadgets: Don’t forget chargers, adapters, and any electronics you’ll need.
2. Luggage: Choose appropriate luggage based on your mode of transportation (car, plane, etc.) and the length of your trip.
Step 7: Take Care of Home and Pets (and children if they’re not accompanying you)
Timeline: Up to 1-2 months in advance
1. Pet Sitters: Arrange for someone to take care of your furballs and/or kids if they’re not joining you. This could be a friend, family member, or professional pet-sitting service.
2. Home Security: Ensure your home is secure while you’re away. Consider asking a neighbor to keep an eye on it, temporarily holding mail delivery, and setting up timers for lights. If you have home security cameras, make sure you’ll have access set up from your mobile devices or laptop.
Step 8: Final Preparations
Timeline: Up to 1 week in advance
1. Confirm Reservations: Double-check all your reservations, including flights, accommodations, and any activities or tours.
2. Emergency Contacts: Share your itinerary with a trusted friend or family member. Provide them with copies of your travel documents and emergency contacts.
3. Packing: Do a final pack and make sure you have all essentials. Check the weather forecast for your destination and adjust your packing list if needed.
Bonus Tips
– Travel Insurance: Consider purchasing travel insurance to cover unexpected events like cancellations, medical emergencies, or lost luggage and jewelry.
– Local Customs: Familiarize yourself with the local customs, language basics, and cultural norms of your destination.
– Health Precautions: Check if any vaccinations or health precautions are needed for your destination. Bring any necessary medications and a basic first-aid kit.
I hope this helps you to be well-prepared to plan out your next adventure, ensuring a smooth and enjoyable vacation.
As always, with love and well wishes for safe and happy travels,
