by Lindsay | Feb 6, 2024 | Relationships
Hey, friends.
After a marriage lasting only 615 days, my divorce is final today. At 8:36am, on my way to start the first day of jury duty, the same judge whose court I’m serving in signed our decree and I’m no longer a “Mrs”. It’s hard to believe it’s over.
I think the most difficult thing for me about divorce is that the person who I’d known so well, who knows me so well, and who I’ve spent every day for over 10 years with is now once again a stranger and will no longer be a part of my life. Our families will go back to being separate families and all we have now are memories. It’s a surreal feeling and one that I never thought I’d have to experience. And it sucks knowing this wasn’t my choice. This entire situation wasn’t within my control and that’s been hard to accept. That’s not to say that I think I was a perfect wife and didn’t contribute anything to the breakdown of our relationship, but I don’t think my choice ever would have been to end it. To me, that’s the opposite of what marriage means. I felt like if we had made it this far (over a decade together), we could get through anything and that’s the way it was meant to be. But my husband didn’t agree, so here we are and I’m forced to deal with it and move forward.
Honestly, in hindsight, after grieving over the last year at the loss of what I thought I’d have forever and losing my other half, I guess I’ve realized that this probably is for the best. I know I’ll be okay and think I’m finally on the road to becoming happy. What took me a long while to realize was that my husband and I were actually not happy for a long time, even before we officially got married, so I know in the long run we’ll be better off separate. It just took a while to come to terms with it. It’s hard to feel like the security of having my permanent partner and having to start all over again alone from the beginning is just going to take some time to process. I felt like after a decade of waiting for marriage to happen and then for my husband to tell me he wanted to end it because “it just wasn’t working” for him after only having been married for 8 months was just too hard to bear. But over the year that it took to file for and finalize the divorce, I was able to process and think I’m finally in a good place now.
Growing up, all I ever remember wanting to be is a wife and mother. My grandparents were married 62 years when my grandma passed away. They did everything together and were truly each others’ other (and better) half. Anyone who knows me now knows that 50 years is what I’m hoping for. I would love nothing more than to be blessed with 50 years of marriage with the love of my life. However, with now being nearly 40 and having already been through two major heartaches (my daughter’s dad and my ex-husband), I’d have to be married to someone practically tomorrow and live to be almost 90 years old for that to happen. So I feel like realistically my window on 50 years is quickly waning. But what I also have to remember is that God’s plan is better than mine. Being married for 50 years may not be what’s right for me, despite it being what I think I want.
All along I know that God was preparing me for exactly the place I’m in now. He knows every step, challenge, and success before I ever live it. So he knew this divorce was coming even before I was born. At least that’s what I believe.
During the early stages of my separation with my now ex-husband, it was my first time reading the entire Bible completely through in chronological order. I had read that God hates divorce. So when my husband told me last February, almost exactly a year ago to the day, that he was ending our marriage and wanted a divorce, I refused to accept it. I didn’t want to displease God in that way. I felt so strongly that I had made a commitment, a lifelong commitment, to our marriage and I was determined to fix anything that was wrong and see it through. I couldn’t let God down and I couldn’t live with the shame of being a failure, especially only 8 months after finally getting married.
It wasn’t until talking to a friend and sharing that I wasn’t ready to accept divorce because God hated it that I was given a new perspective. My friend is also a believer and someone who had been through divorce personally as well. They assured me that yes, God does hate divorce, but that I was probably not looking at it in the right context. God didn’t hate divorce because of the actual act of ending a marriage, which I had a hard time believing since marriages are supposed to be sacred. He certainly didn’t want me to stay in a marriage that (as I soon found out) was an adulterous one and what God likely meant when the Bible says He hates divorce, as my friend explained to me, was that he hated what it did to me and to any families who had to experience it. He hates seeing his children in pain and families being ripped apart by the end of a marriage. He wasn’t going to be angry with me because I was heading toward a divorce. He knew the pain I was in and He already saw everything I had done to try to save the marriage and put it back together. He saw what my husband had been doing behind my back. He knows even more things than just what I had eventually found out and even more than I will probably ever know. He doesn’t want me to have to suffer through the agony of my husband abandoning me and leaving for another woman, as well as for selfishness and greed. God hates my divorce because of how devastating it was for me, our children, and both of our families.
I’m so glad I had this friend to put this into perspective for me. It helped me to see that divorce, although I wish it could have been avoided, wasn’t something I should be ashamed of. It took me months of crying and struggling just to get out of bed every day to come to terms with the fact that it was happening, but I finally felt at peace because I no longer felt the shame that I was letting God down. And that’s not to say I wasn’t still extremely sad at the situation, because I was absolutely devastated that what I thought would be “forever” was already over, but at least I could move forward knowing I gave it all I had and that God wasn’t going to be angry at me. And since my husband moved out of state and refused to file because of how it would make him look at his job, this is when I finally found it within me to file for the divorce.
So here we are, almost exactly one year later from the worst day of my life, and I’m okay. This definitely isn’t anywhere I thought I’d be, but I know that this is all part of God’s plan and that in the end it will be what’s best for me. And for my ex-husband too. Wow, it actually feels weird to say “ex”. For so long even before he was officially my husband I always thought of him that way. So now for him to be my official “ex” and just a memory is something I think will take a little getting used to. But at least now it’s official.
And just to be clear, I think I’m healed (or at least mostly healed) from the heart ache. It’s not that I want the relationship back or that I’m still grieving that man. Although I think I’ll always have some love in my heart for him and what we once shared for an entire ⅓ of my life, the life and memories we made and the families we created together, I’m no longer in love with him. I don’t miss our relationship anymore and I’m finally feeling ready to move on to whatever is coming next. The thing is that everything I wanted was taken away from me without my consent and without even a warning. He was my friend, my person, my other half, and the one waiting for me every night when I got home. I don’t think I miss him per se, but I miss all that he was to me and what we had together. I miss the comfort and security. And I hate that he forced me to be alone without my friend, confidant, and the leader of our home. I’m angry that he had the choice to leave everything behind and start fresh while I’m stuck in the home we shared together with everything he left behind (and I do mean everything – clothes, personal items, tools, cars, etc.). I’m angry that he decided I was no longer good enough, our home wasn’t good enough, and our pets weren’t good enough, even though he was actually the problem (which I didn’t realize for many, many months and blamed myself for in the meantime).
Again, I’m not perfect and I know I have fault in his unhappiness and in our marriage ending. However, for him to have said “we tried and it didn’t work” just a couple months in and all while having an affair behind my back is just so ugly. It seems so unfair and like a slap in the face. But that’s what I’ve been given so I’m just rolling with it and trying to remember that it’s for a purpose (for my good and God’s glory). And I know in my heart now that it’s what’s best for both of us and all part of the plan. I know that he’s happier without me and can live the life he always wanted and that makes me happy for him. And I’m working on my own happiness as well. I’m getting his things out of my home, trying to find the joys that make me happy, continuing to heal, and starting to live life again.
I’ve seen a lot of other people have divorce parties and celebrate with friends when their divorces are finalized. I’m not sure that I feel like celebrating since this doesn’t really feel like any kind of accomplishment, milestone, or victory, but I guess I am glad it’s done. As much as I wished it didn’t have to have ended this way, once I realized this was actually happening and we weren’t ever going to reconcile, I just wanted to get it over with.
So cheers. I’m officially divorced. Now, on to the next chapter. One that I hope will be much happier and filled with new love, good food, lots of dancing, and never ending joy, even through the hard times. And on a positive note, I get to have my own last name back!
For anyone else going through something similar, my heart breaks for you. I didn’t know how bad this actually is until I started going through it myself. It’s rough. Just remember that it’s all part of the plan. It might hurt now, but in the words of someone much wiser than me (AKA my mom), “you can’t start something new until you get rid of the old” . So try to stay positive, focus on the future, and stay strong, even when it hurts. You may not think so, but you’ll be better off in the long run.
All my love and support always,
-LS
by Lindsay | Jan 31, 2024 | Health & Fitness
Hi there, fitness friends!
As a woman in her 30s who successfully lost 70 lbs over two years, I’m excited to share some tips from my personal weight loss journey. I achieved this transformation without any weight loss supplements, trainers, or quick-fix diets. It was all about changing my mindset, being sustainable, and finding what worked for my body.
Remember, these tips are based on my personal experiences and are not medical advice. Please consult your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet or exercise routine.
We’re all different and things that worked for me might not work for you, but hopefully you can find some of these methods helpful and can incorporate them into your own health and weight loss plan.
1. Track Everything
One of the most effective tools for me was the My Fitness Pal app. I diligently recorded everything I consumed, tracked my calories and nutrients, and logged my workouts. This practice helped me identify patterns in my eating and exercise habits. I also used the log to keep notes on YouTube workout videos, strength training exercises, the number of reps and sets, the weights I used, and how I liked the workout (difficulty level, how my knees felt afterward, how much I sweated during it haha). This tracking allowed me to repeat successful workouts and incorporate effective routines into my regular schedule.
2. Plan Ahead
Something about planning my meals and workouts in advance was a game-changer. It allowed me to visualize my daily and weekly goals, ensuring I knew exactly what to eat ahead of time and targeted all areas of my body without overworking specific muscle groups. Having a plan kept me on track with healthy eating and consistent exercise, which is crucial for long-term success. Again, I used the app to help with this, but also made notes in my planner and calendar. Anything that helps you stay organized and plan ahead is perfectly fine!
3. Make Workouts Fun and Short
Finding workouts I enjoyed was essential. I focused on low-impact, low-intensity cardio to protect my knees, especially when I was heavier. Walking became my go-to activity on days when I couldn’t do more intense workouts. The key was to stay active and move my body every day, even with a desk job.
4. Don’t Drink Your Calories
I limited my intake of high-calorie drinks like sweet tea and alcohol. Instead, I drank plenty of water—aiming for at least 8 cups a day. Switching from soda to sparkling flavored water like Bubly helped me satisfy my cravings without consuming empty calories. Occasionally, I’d have a small glass of apple or orange juice for variety.
5. Indulge in Moderation
As someone with a sweet tooth, I knew depriving myself completely would lead to binge eating. Allowing myself small treats, like a few Hershey’s Kisses or dark chocolate-covered almonds, helped curb cravings without derailing my progress. I also gave myself grace to enjoy special occasions, like having a piece of cake at a birthday party. Enjoying life and not being overly restrictive was vital for my mental well-being. Additionally, I learned to use fruit as a healthier way to satisfy my sweet cravings. For instance, cut-up apples with loads of cinnamon became a delicious replacement for less healthy dessert options.
6. Only Buy What You Need
One of the most effective strategies I adopted was to only buy the foods I needed and avoid purchasing items I knew I shouldn’t be eating. If unhealthy snacks and treats are in the house, the temptation to eat them is always present. By sticking to a shopping list of healthy essentials, I made it easier to stay on track and avoid unnecessary indulgences.
7. Get Enough Rest
Rest and recovery are just as important as diet and exercise. I made sure to get enough sleep and took days off from working out when needed. Overworking your body can do more harm than good, so listen to your body’s signals and allow it to recover.
8. Monitor Your Weight
I weighed myself daily to adjust my eating and workouts continually. However, weight can fluctuate due to various factors, so weekly or monthly monitoring might be less stressful. While I didn’t take photos or measurements initially due to feeling ashamed, tracking progress in multiple ways can be motivating. It’s a great reminder of how far you’ve come, especially on tough days.
9. Focus on the Long-Term Journey
Remember, weight loss is a long-term journey. Aim for overall health and sustainability rather than quick fixes. Even if you have an off day, don’t let it derail your progress. Get back on track, stay positive, and understand that occasional slip-ups are part of the process.
These strategies worked for me, and I hope they can inspire you on your journey. Every body is different, so find what works best for you and stay committed to your health goals. You’ve got this!
Stay healthy and happy,
-LS
by Lindsay | Jan 24, 2024 | Motivational
Hey, friends!
Imagine waking up every morning feeling refreshed, energized, and ready to tackle the day ahead with a sense of purpose and direction. A productive start to your day is so beneficial in that it can help set the tone for how you navigate through the rest of your hours. Obviously the first key factor in that is to get a good night’s sleep. However, once you’re up and awake, by incorporating some small steps into the first part of your day and establishing a solid morning routine, you can unlock a world of potential within yourself. Simple things like focusing on planning and prioritizing daily tasks, properly fueling your body, getting ready physically and mentally, journaling, and taking time to meditate or pray can have such a positive impact. The objective is to be your most productive self every day and hopefully these seven tips will not only help you make the most out of your mornings and set you up for successful days, but also empower you to seize each day with enthusiasm and intention. So grab a cup of coffee (or tea), sit back, and get ready to transform your mornings into a powerful springboard for daily success!
Establish a morning routine: Consistent habits help set the tone
Establishing a morning routine is the cornerstone of setting a positive tone for your day. Consistent habits can give you a sense of structure, which I know personally helps me thrive, as well as give a sense of control over your time and actions.
Start by making your bed. This sounds simple and mundane, but this 2 minute task can create a huge sense of accomplishment and discipline right from the start. I do this every single day religiously, even when I’m planning a lounge day where I might pop back into bed mid-morning to watch a movie or mid-afternoon for a pick-me-up nap. And I also remake the bed again after every time I lay in it, just so it’s nice and fresh when I’m ready for sleep that evening.
Following up the bed making with your go-to “get ready” routine is a great next step. A refreshing shower, getting dressed, and fixing your hair and makeup can boost your confidence and drive for the day ahead.
By taking care of these basic grooming tasks in the morning, you signal to yourself that you are ready to face whatever challenges come your way. A well-groomed appearance can also enhance your self-esteem and make you feel more prepared to tackle any obstacles that may arise throughout the day. Dressing intentionally can further help set the tone for productivity, so choosing an outfit that makes you feel great about and confident in yourself can significantly impact how you approach tasks and interactions throughout the day.
The amount of “getting ready” you do can vary day to day, of course, but the most important part is taking that time for yourself and sticking with the routine, even if it’s a shortened version. Some days, like on a Tuesday when you have an important client luncheon and then taco Tuesday and margarita night with girlfriends after work, you might opt for a little more effort on your hair and makeup in the morning, along with wearing something a little more sophisticated that can easily go from day to night. Other days, like on a rainy Saturday, it might be just brushing your teeth and throwing on some lip gloss, leggings, and a messy bun. At least if you need to run to the grocery store later in the day you’ll already be ready! This small step can set you up for success even on your more relaxed days.
If you have pets, or in my case a small zoo, don’t forget to include them into your morning routine as well. My personal morning routine looks more like making my bed, letting all the dogs outside, feeding both the dogs and cats breakfast, then I start personally getting ready while they eat. By the time I’m done, the pups are usually ready to go out again while I move on to the next parts of my morning, which is food!
Eat a nutritious breakfast: Fuel your body.
Starting your day with a nutritious breakfast not only provides the necessary fuel for your body, but also jumpstarts your brain, helping you to better focus on the activities ahead. It’s crucial to remember that even a small morning meal can make a significant difference in your productivity levels throughout the day. Nourishing yourself properly at the beginning of the day, breaks the fast and sets a positive tone for your body for the rest of your day (unless of course you’re doing intermittent fasting, then in which case ignore this whole tip haha).
Aim to include a variety of food groups in your breakfast to ensure a well-rounded nutritional intake, which can enhance overall brain function and sustain your energy level until lunchtime. Consider incorporating whole grains, proteins, fruits, and veggies into your morning meal for optimal benefits. Something like a smoothie can be an amazing source of all these, as well as a quick and easy option if you’re short on time. Remember, food is more than just sustenance; it’s an essential tool in maintaining mental clarity and enhancing productivity from the moment you wake up.
Exercise or stretch: Boost energy and focus.
One of the most effective ways to kickstart a productive day is by incorporating some form of exercise or stretching into your morning routine. Movement can boost your energy levels and help enhance focus and mental sharpness. Research shows that even a short walk can elevate mood and increase cognitive function, making it an ideal way to jumpstart your day. So grab your furry friends and get outside before continuing your day!
By engaging in daily movement, whether it’s a quick yoga session or some light cardio, it’s a signal to yourself that it’s time to focus and be productive. Physical activity releases endorphins, which are known as the feel-good hormones that help combat stress and improve overall well-being. So the next time you feel sluggish or unfocused in the morning, consider lacing up those sneaks for a revitalizing workout session that will set a positive tone for the rest of your day.
Remember, movement doesn’t have to be intense or time-consuming to reap its benefits. Even simple stretching exercises for a few minutes can stimulate blood flow and oxygen circulation throughout your body, leading to increased alertness and productivity. It’s totally fine to save the gym session or intense high-impact training for later in the day. Personally I do better working out more intensely in the evenings, so I keep my morning movements light and quick. On the days I do opt for a more intense morning session, I’ll do a low-impact fasted cardio, which I actually complete before moving on to showering and breakfast. Depending on the style, intensity, and length of your individual morning workouts, you might also prefer to do them every morning before eating and getting ready. No matter the order, these are just suggestions that work for me, but please do whatever works for your body, mind, and schedule. Embrace the power of movement, even short and sweet ones, as a tool to enhance focus and motivation right from the start of your day, setting yourself up for success in all your endeavors.
Set goals for the day: Stay organized.
When aiming for a productive start to your day, setting clear goals is essential. Be specific with what you want to achieve and outline the steps needed to get there. Break down larger tasks into smaller, more manageable ones which can help maintain focus and motivation throughout the day. By prioritizing these goals, you ensure that your time and energy are dedicated to what truly matters, increasing your efficiency and productivity.
To further boost productivity, consider time blocking as a strategy to stay on track. Allocate specific time slots for different tasks or activities, providing structure to your day while reducing distractions. This method might be helpful to ensure that every task receives attention and also allows for breaks in between activities, promoting a balanced workflow. Embrace this time management approach as a way to enhance productivity and achieve your daily objectives successfully.
Prioritize tasks: Focus on the most important first.
Along the same lines as goal setting, another good method to kickstart a productive day is to set aside some time in the morning to plan and prioritize your tasks. In addition to goals and the things you WANT to get done, you might have things you NEED to get done. Utilize a calendar, scheduling tool, or task managing program to map out your day, allocating specific time slots for essential activities. By having a clear roadmap, you can stay focused and organized throughout the day, ensuring that no task slips through the cracks and you have plenty of time for both the things you want and need to accomplish every day to meet your goals.
Prioritizing tasks is key to enhancing productivity. If you have the time in your schedule, depending on what each day looks like, you might opt to start your day by tackling the most important, challenging, or time-consuming tasks first. This could allow you to focus your energy on high-impact activities first and get them out of the way to focus on easier or less structured things later on in the afternoon. Tackling the tough stuff first and getting it out of the way will then free up mental space for other tasks as you progress through your schedule. Remember, effective planning coupled with strategic prioritization are powerful tools in achieving a productive start to your day!
Minimize distractions: Create a focused environment.
To maximize productivity at the start of your day, it’s crucial to minimize distractions and create a focused environment. One effective way to achieve this is by keeping your phone out of sight while planning your goals and tasks for the day, as well as when working. By reducing the temptation to constantly check notifications or scroll through social media, you can maintain better concentration and significantly boost your workflow productivity and time management. In addition, setting specific goals for each work session can provide a clear direction and purpose, helping you stay on track and make progress towards achieving your objectives. It’s totally fine to pencil in some social media and other scrolling times! Just be sure you’re not doing it during the times you’ve blocked off to focus on work.
Staying focused is not just about avoiding external distractions however. It also involves managing internal interruptions, such as procrastination or self-doubt. Maintaining a positive mindset and having self-discipline are key factors in successfully navigating daily tasks and responsibilities. By staying committed to minimizing distractions, reminding yourself to stay on tasks and stay motivated, remaining attentive to your goals, and actively working towards achieving them, you’ll set yourself up for a highly productive start to each day. Personally, I like to look at my days like this: the sooner I can get everything done, the sooner I’m free to enjoy time with my furballs or a night out with friends. The only way to do that is to limit distractions, stay focused, and get it done!
Practice mindfulness or meditation: Center yourself.
One powerful way to start your day on a productive note is by incorporating mindfulness or meditation into your morning routine. Taking a few moments to center yourself, clear your mind, and focus on the present can significantly enhance your mental clarity and set a positive tone for the day ahead. This practice not only boosts productivity, but also promotes overall well-being, helping you navigate challenges with a calmer demeanor. Personally during my “meditation” time is when I pray or read my Bible. Even if it’s only for 20 minutes each morning, taking this “me” time to relax, clear my mind, envision my day, and talk to God is a perfect way to get a successful day started.
Another key tip for maximizing productivity is being intentional with your time and attention. By setting clear goals and priorities for the day, you can allocate resources effectively and stay focused on what truly matters. Avoiding distractions and unnecessary tasks allows you to invest energy in activities that align with your long-term objectives, leading to greater success and fulfillment in both personal and professional endeavors.
Follow these tips to start your day right!
Incorporating these 7 tips into your morning routine can set the tone for a productive and successful day ahead. By prioritizing tasks and goals, avoiding distractions, and being intentional with your actions, you can boost your efficiency and focus. Remember to nourish your body with a healthy breakfast and some exercise to energize your mind and body. Establishing a consistent morning “get ready” routine will provide structure and stability, helping you stay organized and prepared for whatever challenges come your way. Start implementing some or all of these tips tomorrow morning to experience a more productive start to each day. I hope you’re able to quickly see how they transform your mornings into opportunities for growth and achievement!
With love and productive vibes,
-LS
by Lindsay | Jan 17, 2024 | Curly Hair
Hey there, fellow curly girls!
If you’ve ever spent hours detangling, struggled to find a hat that actually fits and doesn’t create severe hat head, or cursed the humidity for turning your perfectly styled locks into a frizzy mess, then you’re in good company. Welcome to the wonderful world of curly and wavy hair, where brushing is an absolute no, every day is unpredictable, and finding a good stylist is like striking gold. As a curly girl for myself, I have a few tips and tricks to share that I’ve learned during my curly hair journey that only we could understand. So grab your favorite gel and get ready to chat about all things related to our fabulous, textured hair!
Before we get started though, let me first say that I’m not a hair stylist, nor a curl expert. Everything you’re about to read is based on my own experiences and opinions, so please implement these tips at your own risk. Also remember that everyone’s curl type, curl pattern, hair thickness, hair health, etc. is different, so things that may work for me may not work for you. I’m simply sharing what I’ve learned through the years in hopes to help someone else on their unique curly journey, but experimentation is important to find exactly what works for you.
But now that that’s out of the way, let’s get into it!
Tip 1: Hydration is Key
Are you tired of your curls or waves feeling like a tumbleweed? One issue could be that you’re over-washing. If you have curly or textured hair, it’s recommended that you say goodbye to daily hair washing (yay!) and let those luscious locks get dirty! Well, not really, but it is important to avoid washing too often which can strip away natural oils and lead to drying out and added frizz. How often you should wash your hair really will depend on your particular hair texture and could also be affected by your daily routines such as your job environment or workout intensity, but washing anywhere from every other day to once a week could be normal. Just test it out until you figure out the right balance that works for you. And don’t be afraid of a little dry shampoo!
On wash days, be sure to opt for a moisturizing shampoo that will gently cleanse without leaving your strands thirsty for hydration. And don’t skimp on the conditioner! However, you don’t want to weigh your hair down in the process by using too much conditioner which can stretch out curls or reduce volume at the roots, so try focusing your moisturizing conditioner only mid-shaft to the ends. You can even let it sit a few minutes before rinsing. Hair masks and deep conditioning treatments are also an amazing idea for extra periodic hydration.
Tip 2: Never Brush Out Your Curls (unless you want a messy ball of frizz)
First off, throw away that regular brush! Seriously, just toss it out and let it find its way into someone’s straight hair because brushes and curls or waves are mortal enemies. Instead, opt for a wet brush, wide-tooth comb, or even just use your fingers if it’s not too snarly after washing and conditioning.
Second of all, don’t even think about brushing your curls when they’re dry. No amount of detangler or gel can save you from that frizz bomb waiting to explode. And by the way, you have my permission to ignore people who say things like, “ew, you don’t brush your hair?” They don’t understand and that’s ok. But back to the point…
Lastly, embrace the chaos and volume. Let those waves and kinks do their thing because perfection is overrated anyway. In my opinion, the least amount of brushing or combing and the messier the better when it comes to curls and natural texture. Once my hair is detangled, I like to play with and separate the curls as little as possible. And the best part is that since we don’t wash every day, we don’t have to brush and detangle every day like straight-haired girls do!
Tip 3: Hats Are an All Day Commitment, So Be Ready
Finding a hat that actually fits over our glorious curls is like trying to stuff a watermelon into a tea cup. Sometimes “one size fits all” hats means only when you have perfectly smooth, sleek hair that doesn’t defy gravity. You’ve got to be willing to embrace hat head and smooshed curls until your next wash day, making wearing a hat truly a commitment.
But fear not, curly girls! Wearing a hat is possible, as long as you’re ready for that commitment. It’s like wearing a ponytail; once you do it, there’s no going back. Ponytail holders (which my daughter and I have always called “pretties”) and hats alike tend to crush curls and ruin perfect curl patterns, so in my opinion, it’s best to do it on the last day before you wash. Plus, a good hat or pony could be the perfect way to hide hair that needs to be washed anyway. You know what I mean; we’ve all been there!
Whenever you are ready to commit to your hat head for the day, there are ways to wear a hat that will even look flattering over top of all that volume and texture. Embrace a slouchy beanie and let those cute little curls around your face peek out. Or consider rocking a high ponytail or pigtail braids when wearing a baseball cap to give your hair the extra space it needs to breathe while looking sporty and fun. Have I mentioned that some guys love it when girls wear their hats?!
Tip 4: Never Let a Good Stylist Get Away
Something you do actually want to commit to is a good stylist. Let’s take a moment to recognize the importance of finding a good, trustworthy stylist for us curly girls. The right person who knows you and your unique hair type is something rare so when you find the perfect person that you and your curls connect with, don’t let them go!
Since I’ve had my fair share of hair horror stories and been traumatized way too many times from less-than-desired haircut results, I admittedly will sometimes wait way too long in between trims. The fear of a bad cut outweighs the split ends for me. However, just remember that keeping your hair trimmed will not only keep it healthy, but also help ensure your style stays more tame and shaped so your curls will look their bouncy best.
We curly haired folks need someone who understands the unique challenges of our locks and doesn’t treat them like straight hair. Let’s not pretend they’re the same! A good stylist knows that cutting curly hair is an art form, not just a quick snip-snip situation. We all deserve to walk out of the salon feeling like Beyoncé in her Crazy in Love music video…fierce, fabulous, and ready to take on the world one curly strand at a time. So be diligent about choosing the right stylist and never let them go when you find them.
Tip 5: Wash-and-Go with Curly Hair Is a No-Go
So, you’ve got curly hair and you’re thinking of just washing immediately before heading out the door? Nope, you can stop right there. Let me tell you, the wash-and-go approach with curly hair is like playing a game of Russian roulette — one wrong move and your curls can turn into a puffy mess! Curls absolutely have a mind of their own and letting them call the shots can mean they’ll take over the world (on our head). So as much as I know you’d love to hop out of the shower and be ready to head out the door, resist the urge and leave a little time for some extra TLC to keep those curls in check.
For us curlies, it’s not as simple as lather-rinse-repeat; it’s more like a 10-step process. Trust me when I say that embracing the wash-and-go life without proper care is asking for trouble—mainly frizz! After all, nothing worth having comes easy. Styling is an intricate process involving just the right amount of product and strategic air drying or defusing techniques. Maybe instead of washing your hair in the morning, the evening would be a better choice for you to wash so you have more time to style. Just be sure not to go to bed with wet hair and that it’s completely dry before hitting your pillow.
Tip 6: Be Open to Embracing Your Unpredictable Curl Pattern
Let’s not forget that our curl pattern seems to have a mind of its own. One day it’s ringlets galore, the next it’s more waves than curls, and some days it’s both at once! Embracing the chaos of curly hair is like riding a rollercoaster. You never know which way it’s going to twist and turn. But hey, isn’t that what makes life and our locks so much more exciting?
The key to embracing your unpredictable curl pattern is to treat it like a mischievous friend who always keeps you on your toes. Just when you think you’ve got it all figured out, it throws you for a loop with a totally new curl formation. Instead of trying to force your curls into submission, try to lean into the madness. Let your curls be their wild, untamed selves and revel in the uniqueness of each unruly strand. One day they might want to part in the middle, one day they might want a side part. My suggestion for the best hair day is to just allow them to do exactly as they want and work with your curls instead of against them. Although yes, we can have bad hair days just like everyone else, giving your strands a little freedom to lay as they will might reduce the chances.
Not only are curl patterns different on the same day depending on where they are on your head, but patterns also might look different on each day in between washes. As your curls stretch out since the last time they’re wet, they can be different on day one, two, three, etc. Although some might say it’s best to use heat tools as little as possible, you might opt to touch up some of the most straight pieces with a curling iron or wand to give them a little bounce back until rewashing. Or spritz with a little water and scrunch in a bit more gel to refresh your curl pattern between wash days.
Tip 7: Combat Frizz to Keep Your Curls Tame
Humidity can be the curly or wavy girl’s worst enemy. One minute you’ve got a fabulous mane of bouncy curls and the next you’re rocking a frizz ball that could double as a science experiment. But fear not, fellow curly girls! Embracing your natural texture doesn’t have to mean surrendering to humidity. Sure, it may take some trial and error, but finding the right products and techniques can help you conquer even the most moist of summer or rainy days.
Depending on whether you prefer your curls to have that more defined “wet” look or to have a softer and more natural look, you’ll need to experiment with products until you get your desired effect. With so many products out there, from mousses and gels to curl creams and serums, there’s no shortage of options. Your hair may be different from other curly girls’ hair so remember that what works for some might not work for others. Additionally, if you live in humid places like the Florida coast or Houston, you’ll likely need different products than if living in Yellowstone. Don’t be afraid to test out new products and even try different combinations of products. And remember, just like applying makeup, sometimes you have to practice a few times before you get the amount, application method, drying technique, etc. just right so be sure to try a few times before moving onto something else.
If you prefer the wet look, opt for lightweight yet strong hold gels that lock in curls without weighing down your strands. If you prefer the more natural look, opt for a curl cream or mousse which will give you a much looser hold and softer feel. Or if you still prefer to use a gel but want a softer appearance, once you dry naturally or defuse, be sure to flip your head upside down and “scrunch out the crunch” as they say, which basically just means to scrunch your curls from the tips up toward the roots to break up the cast left behind by the gel and make them less crunchy feeling. This still gives you optimal hold, but without as much of that wet look.
Embrace the Unique Beauty of Your Curly Hair
So there you have it, folks! Life with curls and waves is unpredictable and possibly more work than straight hair, but I’ve done my best to share my tips and tricks to help you on your curly hair journey. Try to embrace it all and be grateful for your unique hair, no matter your pattern, texture, and styling challenges. You’re a curly girl. You’re unique, you’re beautiful, you’re messy, and you’re perfectly made. Embrace it!
With lots of love, gratitude, and mousse…
-LS
by Lindsay | Jan 10, 2024 | Food
Hi there, busy and hungry people!
Trying to figure out what to make for dinner this week? I can help! Let’s talk about a magical ingredient that, in my opinion, should be a staple in every kitchen: shredded chicken. Not only is it a time-saving superhero, but it also packs a powerful punch of protein and can be used to prepare a huge variety of nutritious and delicious dishes that your family is sure to love.
Before we get into some of my specific dinner suggestions, let’s briefly address the benefits of shredded chicken and why I personally choose to cook with it so often. First of all, it’s incredibly versatile; it’s like the culinary chameleon of proteins. Toss it in tortillas for a taco fiesta, layer it in sandwiches for a lighter option, use it to make a hearty soup or casserole, or sprinkle it on top of salads for some extra flavor. With shredded chicken at your disposal, you’ll never run out of meal ideas that are diverse and tasty.
Additionally, incorporating shredded chicken as a main ingredient into your cooked-up creations can be a cost effective option. Since you’re able to prepare the chicken and then use it in a variety of ways, you can still get an assortment of protein-packed dinners every night while saving some money. Whether you fancy something saucy, spicy, or simple and kid-friendly, shredded chicken will be your trusty sidekick in satisfying your taste buds without turning your freezer into a zoo.
Furthermore, shredded chicken is a total game-changer when it comes to whipping up a fuss-free feast. It’s not just versatile and yummy, but it’s also super easy to prepare. And the mouthwatering dishes you can create with it are equally as effortless, making shredded chicken the secret weapon for even the most inexperienced chef (like myself!) to whip up gourmet masterpieces.
But perhaps the most underrated benefit of using shredded chicken is its ability to save precious time during those hectic family dinner nights. No more waiting for whole chicken breasts or thighs to cook on the range or in the oven after getting home from work, dance lessons, and football practice. Feel free to use a pre-made rotisserie chicken for the most time savings or simply boil your chicken breasts or thighs on the stove immediately before going on to prepare your dish. However, doing this step ahead of time is even more ideal if you’re looking for the most efficient and timely weeknight prep times, so feel free to meal prep a batch of shredded chicken let’s say on a Sunday afternoon before the start of your busy week. Throwing your chicken in a slow cooker for a few hours, if you have the extra time to do so, is especially great when using the breasts to keep them tender and juicy before storing or adding them to each individual recipe during the week.
How to Cook the Chicken
Now that we’ve discussed some benefits, let’s chat about the preparation. If you’re using a rotisserie chicken, simply start shredding whenever you’re ready! But if you’re cooking your chicken on the stovetop, whether on the fly or ahead of time, here’s how you can do so:
- In a large pot, place your chicken and enough chicken broth or water to cover it. I usually use around 1 lb. of boneless, skinless breasts, but I’m also currently just cooking for myself so it might be better for you to prepare 2 lbs. if you have a larger family or are hoping for even more leftovers.
- Season with salt and pepper.
- Bring to a boil over medium-high heat, then reduce to a simmer.
- Cover and cook for around 15-20 minutes or until the chicken is fully cooked and tender. **Be sure to use a meat thermometer to check the inner temperature for doneness (typically around 165 degrees). You don’t want to cook your chicken too long as overcooking can affect the texture and nobody likes rubbery chicken!
- Remove your chicken from the pot and shred using two forks. I usually do this on a cutting board, but you can also use a plate or bowl.
- Use your chicken to prepare your meal right away or transition it to an airtight container to be stored for later use.
When using a slow cooker, I typically follow the same steps as above, but cook on low for 6-8 hours or on high for 3-4 hours until the chicken is tender and can be easily shredded with a fork. Again, make sure it’s thoroughly cooked before proceeding with any further steps.
Once cooked, your shredded chicken can usually be kept chilled in the fridge for around 3-4 days if packaged properly. If you don’t plan on using it in that time frame though, consider freezing it so it stays its freshest until you’re ready to use it.
With your pre-cooked and shredded chicken on hand, now you’re ready to whip up a satisfying meal in no time flat. Plus, you’ll have enough variety to keep your taste buds entertained all week long without sweating over the stove for hours every single evening. So next time you’re feeling stumped about what to make for dinner, turn to that trusty container of shredded chicken and let your creativity run wild. And here’s where I can help!
Shredded Chicken Dinner Ideas
Now that we’ve gone over some of the benefits of using shredded chicken, it’s time to get into the good stuff…the recipes! So whether you’ve got breasts, thighs, or half a rotisserie from last night, grab some forks and start shredding while I share some of my all time favorite shredded chicken dinner ideas that you can keep in your pocket for a busy week.
Chicken Tacos
Heat your chicken however you prefer, either on the stove or in the microwave. You can even cook it with one of the taco flavoring packets and in which case you should just follow the directions on the packet. When your chicken is warm, place the prepared meat inside flour tortillas, corn tortillas, or crunchy taco shells. Top with your favorite fixings, such as tomatoes, lettuce, shredded cheese, sour cream, pico de gallo, guacamole, or salsa. Get everyone involved and let them make their own taco masterpieces to taste. Great for Taco Tuesday nights with the whole family!
Chicken Nachos
Using similar ingredients as the chicken tacos, simply change out your tortillas or taco shells for some corn tortilla chips. Layer the chips on your plate, top with your heated chicken, then pile high all the traditional toppings you wish. Add some heat with jalapenos, some extra protein with refried or black beans, and sauce it up with some salsa or queso.
Chicken Quesadillas
For my quesadillas, I like to buy the large burrito tortillas, but really any flour tortillas will do. Spray your heated skillet with a non-stick cooking spray, then place in one tortilla. Add your chicken and the cheese of your preference. Top with another flour tortilla. Once the bottom starts to brown slightly and your cheese starts to melt, flip your quesadilla in the pan. I usually use a spatula or plate to flip so I can lose as little of the contents as possible. Once the bottom starts to brown again, it’s ready to transfer your quesadilla to a plate and cut it. I personally like to serve my quesadillas with lots of smashed avocados or guacamole, but feel free to garnish it as you wish.
Chicken Enchiladas
Use your favorite premade enchilada sauce or make it from scratch, mix it with your chicken, then spoon it into some white corn tortillas. Place them seam down into a baking dish and top with some additional enchilada sauce and Mexican blend cheese. Then bake at a 350 degree oven until heated throughout and your cheese starts to melt and bubble, usually about 15-20 minutes. These are great when served with some refried or charro beans, rice, and a side salad.
Pulled BBQ Chicken Sandwiches
This one is super simple, but super tasty. Simply heat up your chicken, mix it with your favorite BBQ sauce (my personal favorite is Sweet Baby Ray’s), then serve it on a roll or toasted bread. I tend to put cheese on everything, so I usually top mine with some shredded cheddar, but that’s of course optional. This is especially great for a summer dinner and pairs well with some potato salad, chips, or cole slaw.
Chicken Parm Sandwiches
This is probably my favorite dish on the list! I love anything with sauce and cheese though, so this one isn’t hard for me to love. Similar to the pulled BBQ sandwich, you simply heat your chicken and mix it with your favorite marinara sauce. Place on top of toasted bread or even garlic bread, then finish it with some mozzarella and parmesan cheeses. Mmmmmm!
Chicken Spaghetti
If you like the idea of chicken and marinara, but aren’t in the mood for a sandwich, use it to top your favorite pasta. All you’ll have to do is cook up some spaghetti or ziti noodles, pour on your saucy chicken, then whip up a side salad and some garlic knots and you’re all set with an Italian feast!
Chicken Alfredo
Feeling a little more like fettuccine than spaghetti? Well nothing goes better with fettuccine than shredded chicken and some alfredo sauce. You can make your cheesy sauce using your own recipe or just choose to pick up your favorite jarred brand to speed up the process. Cook your noodles and toss with the chicken and alfredo. Serve in a similar way as the chicken spaghetti.
Chicken Pizza
Are you a pizza maker? Break out your Ooni pizza oven and make your dough. Then top with pizza sauce, shredded chicken, whatever veggies you like, and finish with shredded mozzarella and parmesan. Quick, easy, and kid approved!
Chicken with Rice and Veggies
This one is great because you can use whatever rice and veggies you prefer and make it slightly different each time. Prepare some white, brown, or wild rice according to your preference, then mix in your chicken and cooked veggies. Choose to add anything from carrots and green beans to corn, bell peppers, or broccoli. Get even a little fancier and add a splash of soy sauce or Mae Ploy to your dish.
Chicken and Gravy Potato Bowls
I love to make some chicken gravy mix (or you can use your favorite jarred brand), then mix it with my shredded chicken and place it on top of creamy mashed potatoes and corn. Sometimes I also top with some shredded cheese if I’m in the mood (which I usually am!). Fresh dinner rolls go perfectly with this meal and are great for dunking in any extra gravy.
Chicken Soup
Making a nice chicken soup in the slow cooker is great, but nobody has time for that on a Monday! In a large pot, I’ll throw in my shredded chicken, some chicken broth, and either cooked rice, egg noodles, or barley. I also add in my vegetables which usually consist of some combination of canned carrot slices, corn, cubed russet or golden potatoes (peeled or not peeled, your preference), chopped celery, and onion. I simply let this all simmer until all my veggies are cooked and soft, typically around 30 minutes or so.
As you can see, shredded chicken is truly the unsung hero of family dinners. Not only is it convenient and cost-effective, but it’s also incredibly versatile and can be used in a variety of dishes that are both delicious and healthy. Plus, it’s kid-approved, making mealtime a breeze for busy families. Whether you’re whipping up tacos or sandwiches, the possibilities for leftover shredded chicken recipes are endless. So next time you’re at a loss for what to make for dinner, consider keeping some shredded chicken on hand for a stress-free cooking experience that will satisfy the whole family.
Let me know if you try any of these suggestions and share your favorite recipes. Happy cooking!
-LS
