35 Things Every Woman Should Know, Do, or Have Before Turning 35

35 Things Every Woman Should Know, Do, or Have Before Turning 35

by | Apr 10, 2024 | Fabulous + Flawed, Seasons + Celebrations

Hey, fellow 30-something ladies!

Are you ready to embrace your thirties like the boss babes you are?  Whether you’re already knocking on 35’s door or just dipping your toes into this exciting decade, there are certain things that can add a sprinkle of fun, wisdom, and, let’s be real, a dash of fabulousness to your journey.  So, grab your favorite beverage, cozy up, and let’s dive into the top 35 things every woman should know, do, or have before the big 3-5.

1. Own Your Signature Scent: Find that one perfume that makes you feel unstoppable. It’s like your secret weapon in a bottle!

2. Invest in Quality Skincare: Because taking care of your skin is the ultimate act of self-love. Hello, glowy goddess!

3. Learn to Say No: Your time and energy are precious, darling. Say yes to what lights you up and politely decline what doesn’t.

4. Get Your Passport: Whether it’s a romantic getaway with your special man, a bachelorette party with your favorite girls, or a family cruise having your passport is handy so you never have to wait to take that next trip.

5. Master a Killer Cocktail: Impress your friends (or yourself) with your mixology skills. Cheers to being fabulous!

6. Start on Your Passion Project: Whether it’s selling handmade crafts, freelance writing, or a side hustle, explore your passions outside of your 9 to 5.

7. Find Your Perfect Lipstick Shade: Every woman needs that one lipstick shade that makes her feel like she can conquer the world. Find yours and wear it proudly.

8. Learn a New Language: Because being bilingual is not only practical, but oh-so-sexy and leaves the door open to meeting cultured new people. Plus, you’ll be all ready when you use your passport!

9. Invest in Good Bras and Underwear: Your girls deserve the best support and so do you!

10. Have a Signature Dish: Impress your guests (or just yourself) with your culinary prowess. Bon appétit!

11. Declutter Your Space: Out with the old, in with the fabulous. Create a space that sparks joy and reflects your amazingness.

12. Dance Like Nobody’s Watching: Let go of inhibitions and dance like nobody’s watching. Bonus points for impromptu kitchen dance parties!  Take lessons with a partner or even by yourself.

13. Embrace Your Inner Child: Jump in puddles, build a blanket fort, or indulge in some coloring therapy. Age is just a number, darling.

14. Invest in Self-Defense Classes: Because being strong and empowered is always in style.

15. Create a Vision Board: Manifest your dreams and watch them come to life. You’re the artist of your own destiny. Set your goals and make them happen.

16. Learn to DIY: From fixing a leaky faucet to assembling IKEA furniture, channel your inner handywoman.

17. Find Your Go-To Workout: Whether it’s yoga, kickboxing, tennis, or salsa dancing, find a workout or sport that makes you feel alive and gets your body moving.

18. Master the Art of Talking: Networking doesn’t have to be scary. Embrace your charm and dazzle everyone you meet.

19. Invest in Timeless Fashion Pieces: Build a wardrobe that makes you feel confident and fabulous, no matter the occasion. Every woman needs some basic staples like a little black dress, a formal suit for court, a funeral outfit, and a good pair of shoes or boots for every occasion.

20. Start a Savings Account: Because financial independence is the ultimate boss move. If you can even work on getting out of debt, even better!

21. Read More: Feed your mind with books that inspire, challenge, and transport you to new worlds.

22. Volunteer for a Cause You’re Passionate About: Make a difference in your community and leave a positive impact on the world.

23. Practice Gratitude Daily: Count your blessings and watch your life transform into a beautiful masterpiece.

24. Learn to Fix Your Own Car: Who says girls can’t be gearheads? Especially when we have YouTube, right?! Empower yourself with some basic car maintenance skills, even if it’s just changing your tires, oil, or spark plugs.

25. Invest in Quality Bedding: Because a good night’s sleep is non-negotiable. Silk sheets? Egyptian cotton? Down comforter? Try them all!

26. Learn to Let Go of Toxic Relationships: Surround yourself with people who lift you higher and let go of those who drag you down.  Whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, or family member, say “bye Felicia” to anyone who no longer serves you or respects your boundaries.

27. Travel Somewhere Solo: Push your boundaries and discover the incredible freedom of solo travel.  Discover the world on your terms. Bonus points for getting lost and finding yourself in the process.

28. Start a Journal: Document your thoughts, dreams, and adventures. Your story is worth telling.

29. Splurge on a Luxurious Spa Day: Pamper yourself like the queen you are. You deserve it! Or better yet, include a little extra allowance in your budget each month to do your nails, touch up your highlights, get a massage, or go on a small shopping splurge.

30. Find Your Signature Hairstyle: Whether it’s sleek and sophisticated or wild and free, find a hairstyle or two that screams “YOU.”  Don’t forget to think about day time and night time looks.

31. Invest in a Good Mattress: Because beauty sleep is not a myth, darling.  Get to know your sleep style and whether you prefer a firm or soft mattress. Even think about investing in an adjustable bed for optimal comfort.

32. Learn to Meditate: Quiet the noise, find inner peace, and reconnect with your true essence. This could be simply taking a few minutes to relax in silence, pray and hear from God, or listen to serene and calming music.

33. Start a Retirement Fund: It’s never too early to plan for your fabulous future.

34. Take Risks: Embrace uncertainty and step outside of your comfort zone. That’s where the magic happens. Of course, calculated risks are probably best, but sometimes doing it scared can lead you to some amazing new places. Remember, no risk, no reward.

35. Love Yourself Unapologetically: You are imperfectly perfect, beautifully flawed, and absolutely extraordinary. Own it, embrace it, and never apologize for being you. Love yourself the way you hope others will love you and then they will!

Cheers to 35 (or more) year and the fabulous journey that lies ahead, darling!  Here’s to turning 35 and beyond with grace, style, and a whole lot of sass. You’ve got this!

Happy birthday and XOXO,

-LS

PS – Don’t forget to celebrate every milestone, big or small, because each one is a glittering gem in the crown of your amazing journey. And if you don’t have some or all of the things on this list done before 35, don’t sweat it! There’s still time, but also, don’t feel obligated or compare yourself to anyone else. This is merely a guide of suggestions. But the most important thing is to get out there, live your life to the fullest, and do the things that make you happy, no matter your age!

Things I’ve Learned Living In Texas

Things I’ve Learned Living In Texas

by | Mar 13, 2024 | Fabulous + Flawed

Howdy y’all!

If you’d have told my almost 18-year-old New Yorker self that I’d be living in Texas for the next 21 years, I probably would’ve laughed and asked if you meant New Jersey. But here I am, exactly 21 years to the day later from when I moved to Texas and I’d like to share the things I’ve learned since living in the Lone Star State.

Cowboys Are Real, But Not Ubiquitous

First things first, not everyone in Texas is a cowboy. I mean, sure, you’ll see a fair share of hats and boots, but the entire state isn’t a scene out of an old Western movie. However, you will need a pair of broken-in boots. Trust me, they are essential for fitting in and surprisingly comfortable once you get used to them. I’ve also recently purchased my first straw hat that matches my boots.  So although I don’t live in Fort Worth or attend the rodeo regularly, I think I might be an officially Texas cowgirl now.

Tumbleweeds and Roadrunners: Myths Debunked

Tumbleweeds do exist. They are not, however, constantly rolling down Main Street. You’ll spot them occasionally, especially when the wind kicks up in West Texas, but it’s not the wild, wild West all day, every day. And roadrunners? They’re real too, but they are not big, purple, or perpetually chased by coyotes. They’re small, quick little birds that you might miss if you’re not paying attention.  In fact, I’d been seeing them for years running across the road and never even knew that’s what they were until I asked someone what they looked like.

The Truck, The Boots, and The Gun

Yes, you must own a truck. It’s like an unwritten rule. Whether you need to haul hay or just navigate the sometimes rough terrain, a truck is your best friend. Plus there are many places in Texas that a small little Honday like mine just can’t get to. Potholes in Texas are the size of, well, Texas. Along with the aforementioned requirement to own a good pair of broken in boots, you’ll also need a gun. And no, this doesn’t mean Texas is a dangerous place.  It’s more about the culture of hunting, self-reliance, and being prepared.

(Disclaimer:  This is meant to be taken in a humorous manner and I’m by no means suggesting for anyone to purchase or possess a firearm, especially if that’s not something you’re comfortable with or not legally able to obtain. I’m merely saying that it’s not uncommon in the culture of Texas to see them openly and frequently, which is much different than the culture in New York.  Here, guns are more commonly acceptable to have by even the small town’s little grandma.  As they said in the movie Miss Congeniality, “this is Texas; even my florist has a gun!”.) 

The Language of Texas

“Y’all” and “reckon” are proper English here and I’ve even heard them in professional settings. It’s amazing how these words can make conversations more inclusive and friendly. I reckon I’ve picked up quite a bit of this charming Southern dialect over the years. And let’s not forget Spanglish.  Yes, that’s a real language here. You’ll find yourself mixing English and Spanish in the same sentence without even realizing it. Phrases like “Estoy so tired” and “Vamos a la store” start to become second nature. It’s a beautiful blend that reflects the rich cultural tapestry of Texas and allows people of different dialects to more easily communicate and come together as one unified state.

Italian Food and Pizza

As a New Yorker, I hold a special place in my heart for Italian food and pizza. I hate to break it to you, but good Italian restaurants are few and far between in Texas. And pizza? Let’s just say, don’t set your expectations too high. I’ve had to become quite the home cook to satisfy my cravings or at least be willing to take a decent drive to a larger city to find a good “pie”.  Oh and true story…the first time I asked a girl at a pizza joint here for a large “pie”, she was confused and replied “um, ma’am, we don’t serve pies here”. (SMH!)

Seasons: All or Nothing!

Typical seasons don’t exist in Texas. One day it’s summer, the next it’s winter. And sometimes, we get all four seasons in a single day. Dressing accordingly is an art form I’ve yet to master. Layering is your best friend and always have a pair of sunglasses, an umbrella, shorts, and a jacket in your bag or vehicle.

Check Your Boots

Always, and I mean always, check your boots before putting them on. You never know what could have crawled in there overnight, especially if you live in the country like I do. This is one piece of advice that I thank God I’ve never had to learn the hard way, but for others it only takes one surprise to make you a believer.

Texas is Huge

You can drive for 8 hours in almost any direction and STILL be in Texas. The sheer size of this state is mind-boggling. Weekend road trips can take you through deserts, forests, cities, and beaches, all without crossing the state line. In fact, you can fit  New York states in the state of Texas.

Miscellaneous (and Humorous) Observations

Here are a few more quirky observations:

  • Tex-Mex is its own food group. If you haven’t had enchiladas, birria, or breakfast tacos, you haven’t lived.
  • Texans take college football very seriously. VERY SERIOUSLY. Choose your allegiance wisely.
  • The phrase “bless your heart” can be both a compliment and a subtle insult. Context is key.
  • Fire ants are tiny, but they are fierce. Respect them and always watch where you step.
  • Barbecue is a sacred tradition. Each region in Texas has its own style and all are delicious. Try the brisket, ribs, and pulled pork in every city you visit. You can thank me later.

Living in Texas has been a wild ride full of laughs, lessons, and love. And hey, even some of my exes live in Texas! (haha)  But in all seriousness, I’ve come to appreciate and adore the unique culture, the friendly people (generally speaking, of course), and the vast landscapes. While I’ll always be a New York in my core and you’ll still hear the accent come out every now and then, Texas has found a permanent place in my heart.

So, to my fellow ladies, whether you’re a Texan born and raised or a transplant like me, I hope you find joy in the quirks and charms of this incredible state. And remember, when in doubt, just smile, nod, and say “y’all”, and everything will be alright.

Bless your heart, get out and enjoy our great state!

-LS